Children and discipline

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This morning I'll be writing on how I think correction is to instilled in a child. Alright I know that we're having a lot of people here on this platform with different cultural and societal values. Some people believe in the use of the cane while some see it as something absurd. Some believe so much in punishment which can be in form of physical punishment or depriving the child of some things for a period of time.

Well, we all have different dispositions to this correction issue. But of course, we know that for every thing in life, there are always extremes which should not be explored by anyone because it's always disastrous. I have seen different people who have gone extreme on this correction matter and they eventually became victims of what they were trying to escape.

There's a level that correction can reach that it'll be termed as violence or even child abuse. Oh yes, I've seen parents who have gone as far as hurting their children with harmful things like hot iron, etc just because of the wrongdoings of a child. I have also seen parents who have gone the extreme of pampering their children so much that the child lacks normal moral values that people have. This makes the child wayward and one it backfires on the parents. We can see now that both extremes are obviously not.

Whether we like it or not, discipline remains a virtue that everyone whether young or old needs to have in his/her life, because this forms the basis of how impactful your life will be. And whether you like it or not, life has a way of teaching you discipline except if you don't really want to be impactful, that's when you'll despise how life teaches you discipline.

To how we can correct children, one thing I've come to realise is that child training is something you do not have opportunity to redo. Because you either pass or fail. Once your child is old enough, you can't get to correct them as you would when they were younger.

A part in the bible says that 'train up a child in the way he should go and when he's old he'll not depart from it'. Obviously, all parents learn on the job, no matter how much you've read about child training, when you have one, you'll understand how much of a work it is. This is not to talk down on reading, it's very important to read on issues like this because no matter what you'll still be better than those who haven't read on it at all.

Children have different ways they react to the different types of corrections. Some children work with when they're yelled at while some don't, no matter how much you yell, it doesn't look like anything happened. Some other children are so fine with just eye contact, ohh, they know how to understand eye movement, such that they correct themselves immediately, but there are some that no matter how much you turn your eyes, roll it, they'll still never understand. While some children work with cane, like the extra stubborn ones, if the cane is not used, they'll never correct themselves. I call them the special children. Some also work with punishment etc.

Personally, I'm a fan of punishment. I can use the cane but I'm more of a punishment person. I like to make pay for foolishness. Now I'll only punish when you either disobey or the child is just outrightly foolish.

We all make mistakes, and it'll be unfair to punish the for all mistakes. But some mistakes are just byproduct of foolishness, while some are byproduct of disobedience. For example, a child that has been corrected about a thing but still does the same mistake againbis simply disobedience, he can blame this on forgetfulness, but it's just because he didn't put his heart to the correction made previously. Therefore, he is to pay for that. While some children are prone to doing foolish things. Okay for example, if you have a baby that is just crawling, and you have a lantern in the house. When you see the baby crawl to the lantern, you carry the baby so that he'll not go there, but some babies will withdraw while some will not. If I was the one, I'll allow the baby touch it and when he touches it and discovers that it's hot, he'll not go there again. Foolishness took him there, but consequence sent him back.

The bible said that foolishness abounds in the heart of a child but the rod of correction drives it far. Rod of correction is relative to what can drive that foolishness far as defined by you. You choose what rod you use. Is it the rod of advice, cane, yelling, eye contact or punishment etc.

Another thing is that the mode of correction should change as the child grows up. You can't correct a teenager the same way you correct a younger child.

I hope to see your opinions in the comments section. Have a nice day