Relationships: Family that we hold dear! Important to us…

I’ve been meaning to write about this and most of the time it slips away! In general, I am very happy that in this part of the world, family is treasured! Let me get to the point, not faking it. I am not the type who adores my family because the scriptures say so! Or because in the eyes of everyone, I have to do it! It's more to that!

Scriptures

There is a reason why the BIBLE had it as “honor your mother and your father”. I don’t have a good relationship with my father and I am not really familiar with the “implicated benefit of doing that”. However, I am very familiar with mom. If you want to live a long life with good and be blest in unique ways such as beloved wife, “deeply honor your mom!”. There are many ways of honoring our mom, different folks, different strokes… so, the more you serve your mom without… there are actually a lot of intricate things that happen that its really a long story. Serving her like a queen, perfectly, never to hold a grudge or so, protect her physically and even more! The perfect child proves to have good benefits.

My friend, who recently died of cancer, served her mom the way she knows. Feeding her caprices and providing for her financially, and it returned to her hundred folds. She was lucky to migrate to AUSTRALIA without spending a cent and became a permanent resident there. Ah! Another friend, same, supported her mom and bought her a home. She has successfully immigrated to Australia and sustained her heart disease for 20 years.

However, these girls are serving their moms for the love of her! Appreciate her without me telling them of the benefits it reaps. If you read the WORD of God, it unlocks a lot of mysteries and secrets that not everyone has the privilege of knowing. Take note, that serving your mom means giving your wholehearted attention, and everything else in this line, is that. Now that you know, you really cannot benefit from knowing now and change your ways of treating her! The way you treated her from the beginning is what’s inside your heart that no matter how much you’ll try to start from scratch without due repentance and whole-hearted change, will never suffice. You’ll only reap misery and disappointments. Your outlook in life matters!

On one point there are superficial benefits though. If one has to treat their mom as mere supplication, sure. In general, longevity is one of the benefits. Not really a long long life but you come to age, not stop at 30. Reaching 40 is old enough, lolz.

If you were curious enough, this is actually true to other culture in Asia, most especially Chinese. This is still very much in practice.

Tradition.

“I NEVER ASKED TO BE BORN!”. Imagine you’re are a mom and be answered by your child that! I remembered our eldest answered this about 40 yrs ago! And sorry, I find this to be the greatest insult a mom will bear! It just nullifies the very existence of having a child! Now, I don’t want to dwell and name names for such! Opps!

Children, our mom’s retirement plan! Ok! Other cultures throw this at every pinoys face who has no idea what our family means to us. Except of course those children who have been posting, proud to tell the world of the “pasan ko ang mundo” crap on social media (I bear the world on my shoulders). Argggg! So much drama! OMG! Sorry, but I’d like to slash a bit! NOBODY TOLD YOU SO! F***!

But to many of those who never thought of it like that! Sorry! But our story is in-depth. Never once does hate dwell in our hearts. My mom never protected me from any adversaries, unlike my friends who were favorite child while I was treated like an adopted. My respect runs deep despite all the harshness in the world, I will still bring down heaven for my mom! Why? I really don’t know why! It hurts to see my mom cries, and panic when the money runs out and no more food on the table. It hurts knowing she has to face insults from other people because we were poor! It hurts whenever our father maltreats my mom or said something to malign her dignity! Ok! I can’t explain but that’s it. Providing for her was never intended, it was given! Out of the deepest respect for her!

Now, other parents… yes! There are parents who made their children milking cows, and about half of them are! But, like I said there are exceptions, and what I’ve said as some of the exceptions is actually also half of the population too! So, when you decided to marry and have children, it's really your discretion if you would make your children your milking cow or not. Other cultures, which is why they strongly give independence at 18!

Benefits.

I’m not yet done with benefits. Taking care of my family has a lot of intrinsic benefits. Ok! Their presence may either be a nuisance or a blessing in disguise! But I’ll leave you to think about that.

Imagine the world abandoning you. You are alone in your apartment 365 days a year and just work non-stop. The phone is super nice but doesn’t ring except for notifications from work. Your friends remember you when they have problems and you know the next lines, the typical ones. Some friends invite you over because they want to hang out and ended up paying all the bills or half but still end up alone in your house/home/apartment. Work can get depressing or stressful or if there was a promotion you’d like to celebrate but don’t have anyone to celebrate it with. Ok, making it short, life becomes a bore and lonely! Why’d you ask many go on trekking, tour around the world to fill that emptiness or the hallow there in between your chest! Sometimes that hallow hurts for no reason at all. Then you get sick, good if there was a friend who really cares! Good, if none, good luck!

Alright. Then mom, siblings, or family, figures out to visit you. Hahaha! Surprisingly caught you in the middle of a storm, that literally turns your living room like everything is everywhere. Can relate? Or caught you drenched in a cold sweat because you got a fever or just really sick. Do you get where I’m getting?

Ever heard of the phrase “family takes care of family”! yeah! It’s not an obligation nor responsibility but a deep feeling of the “NEED” to take care of family! There are really people who don’t understand it but for many, it’s a very strong foundation, to begin with. Why? It's having someone there by your side without asking them to and stays! And in the end, there is a sense of fulfillment in being able to do this. Quite satisfactory that no one can take away the bliss, it radiates to the soul.

Why I’m happy? Well, there will be a lot of elderly in this part of the world who doesn’t end up at home for care and live with strangers! Is it positive? Yes! Because all of us grow old and one day, like me, perhaps my sons will let me live home with strangers or be happy that I’d look after their children! It’s a long shot but they’d rather keep me and continue to make them good home cook meals, for them and for my grandchildren! Thank u for reading, sorry for a long read.

July 29, 2022
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