Choose the people in your life that helps you grow. Molds you into the best version of you!

I guess a part III then? Hahaha! I don't want to sound trolling or stalking...

An old adage says, “No man’s an island”. Man forms allegiance, -brotherhood, for many reasons but I think mainly because there are bigger goals to achieve and it’s easier done when united.

From childbirth to adulthood, it is a must that we will interact with and know people. All through our lives, we meet people that come and go! Some stay for a while, while many else go. Either somewhere else they deem to be or to their last sleep.

We all go through this process, the same process except we learn differently. We meet people that can actually create or destroy lives. People who unknowingly, were the goal while others learn to be deceptive and play victims, -unknowingly too they claimed! Whether or not, it affects us directly, we have the responsibility to ourselves to protect ourselves from all adversities. We have the responsibility to ourselves to be with people who will guide or teach us to navigate through these times. While it’s unfortunate at some point we made some discoveries of the misfortunes, we are still lucky that such discoveries reached our end. And it’s up to us to either learn from it or live with it.

We really are given the choice to make our decisions. Our lives, our decision. It’s a matter that we alone at some point deal with it. How we treat it is how our future is shaped. So trust in yourself to make the call and whatever that is, don’t be afraid to make mistake(s) because it is truly natural to make one. Without it, growing is almost impossible. Mistake is part of life and we all go through them without exemptions. It really matters how early you grasp its meaning and impact on your life that is enough to make a decision, either for a change or to remain.

Sometimes we are forced to face situations we don’t want to face. Like we can't wait for it to vanish but sometimes it doesn’t go away, while others do! We have no choice but to deal with it for us to have peace of mind.

Choose to be with the person who treasures you. Who helps you grow up amidst challenges and holds your hand while you are at it. Choose those people who choose to be with you not because it is convenient for them, and leave you hanging when it is not. Perhaps this is the most part we are missing, we never knew if we were just for convenience or until it happens. Choose to be with people who push you to be the best version of yourself and aim for the betterment every now and then. The people who are happy for the littlest achievement you get are not jealous over a small or little promotion at work. Those who are thankful for the smallest progress you achieve in such a difficult time have a lot to deal with.

They may stay a while but their memories will surely last! Carved in your heart that lingers forever! Keep them. For they are treasures to behold and not everyone is lucky to have them in their lives. Let them know you cherish them so the charity you send will bring back tenfolds of kindness into your realm.

Please! Don't take yourself for granted. Make a choice and not be blackmailed with their opinions or you being inconsiderate of their opinions! Why? Once they blackmail, you let them be... Oh no! There will be next and next, next! It will never stop. This is your life, fight for it because no one else will. When you show them you can hold your ground, people will stand beside you without knowing it. Your allies without telling you will stay strong with you. Believe that you have allies, because for sure in this world we are not alone. We all suffer the same, it is just a matter of fighting for the right cause.

You may not believe me but there is beauty in standing your ground. It means you are hard to take down. And your allies as well. We will all be down but, it will take the heavens to take you down, especially when you put your heart into it! Thank u for the read. God bless.

December 2, 2022
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