It's hard to be a man on Valentine's Day

Hello dear readers. First of all, happy Valentine's Day. ❤️

Observing a men in my environment, I came to a conclusion. It's really not easy for them today. Valentine's Day is a holiday that imposes an obligation. It's nice to see all those red hearts, roses, sweets and wisely designed gifts that attract people who are in love to choose them and impress their valentines, but behind all that lies an obligation and a bunch of questions. What to buy? Where to go? What to do?

Although I am a woman, I am aware of how complicated women are. If you give them too much, they will probably think something is wrong. If you give them too little, they will be dissatisfied. They have tendency to compare themselves with others, and in fact they are only eager for affection. If there is no lack of affection, you will not need all those red hearts and gifts.

When you find yourself in a situation where you have to measure and quantify your love with a gift, it is not easy at all. And on this day, a man is expected to buy the right gift. When I say right, I mean the one that will impress a woman. Of course, buying gifts is mutual, but I think that more is expected of a man.

I don’t really want to be a party pooper, but my brain encounters a lot of illogicality when it comes to this day.

Why buy a gift? To prove love? To be kind? To impress?

If you have a need to prove love, then something is wrong. I think it is a lack of confidence and to think that it can be compensated by some attractive gift is a delusion. Love cannot be proven. Love is felt. I’ve never had the need to say “I love you,” not because I’m a cold person, but because love is simply felt, needless to say. And you can see these words on almost every gift, which is nonsense.

Some men will buy a gift because they are kind and do not want their girlfriends / wives to feel less worthy than those who received a gift from their partners. This is where human complexes come to the fore.

Some men buy a gift to impress, and this intention can give them a headache. How to impress someone with material things to whom you feel such a beautiful emotion as love? That is very difficult. If you buy a cheap gift, they will say you didn't try hard enough or you don't care and you are not creative and inspired. If you buy an expensive gift, again all of the above can be. The same goes for choosing a place to go with your loved one. Everything should be special and you are afraid that you will not meet expectations.

It's complicated. This day is complicated, but in fact very simple. If you have someone you love by your side, that's enough. It is not my intention to diminish the significance of Valentine's Day. On the contrary, it is nice to emphasize love as the most beautiful feeling that moves us in life. But if you love someone, give love every day, with an open heart, selflessly, because every day is a day of love.

Thank you very much for reading.

Article is original and mine. Lead image is from unsplash.com.

Enjoy the love!