They say that grandparents are extra caring for their grandchildren. The love they poured on their children when they were younger is more intense than usual.
As a kid who spends her time every summer with her grandparents, I must say that it's true. However, there are certain situations that their love is going overboard and becoming toxic. They've become controlling and strict. Most especially grandma.
But before I'll explain why I named her the Stubborn Queen of the Family, I will give a little background of her life.
My grandparents met in a clothing business grandma's family was running. Grandma, who's 30 years old at that time, was the store's overall assistant together with her brother. Meanwhile, grandpa, who's 32 years old at that time, was working as a truck driver. They stopped by the store where grandma was working. They got to know more each other and the rest was history.
However, it was not an easy union for both of them. They got married in 1963 but they failed to reproduce offspring during the first two years of marriage.
This is what I don't like the most in the past generation's definition of women. Men think that women's purpose is to give birth only. Such a b*llsh*t. As per mom, grandpa almost gave grandma back to her family because she couldn't bear a child. How lame was that?
Still, I'm grateful for it anyway because we wouldn't be here on Earth if it wasn't for them. So after 2 years of marriage, they finally had a child Jes. After 5 years, for 3 consecutive years, they got Jef, Jen, and Teresa.
It was a tough marriage. It was full of challenges. Grandma is a plain housewife and grandpa is a truck driver. Years after, grandpa was hired to be the governor's driver so that gave him the privilege to send the kids to school.
However, I will not give the credit to grandpa only. Grandma has this attitude of extreme frugality. She manages all the things in the house and makes use of it to its extent. Which brings me to name her as stubborn:
Her memory is superb. She can trace every single thing she has in mind when she wants to use something. I'm not exaggerating, it's the truth.
I started to realize how complicated it is to live with her was when I first entered to college. I lived with my grandparents because the school is accessible and convenient in our location.
She's very particular with things. From the utensils in the kitchen, down to the tools used for gardening. If I'm going to share every single thing she uses with extreme care, it'll be a long list to dictate.
She likes to hoard it. Then sometimes, there are things she loses track of where she puts it and so we'll buy another set of it. Given that due to old age, elders have lesser chances of memorizing things but her case is different. If one becomes a part of her everyday routine then the higher its chances of her not forgetting it.
There was one time she kept dishwashing sponges in her kitchen cabinet. The kitchen is hers so nobody could catch it. Everyone has to ask her if one needed something. What she usually does is she cuts the dishwashing sponge into half and hides the remaining to the cabinet.
If the used sponge gets rotten and needs to be replaced, our helper asks her where's the other sponge and she will point her finger to the location she used to keep the sponge to. If we can't find one, she'll start accusing everyone where the sponge goes.
And she's very certain to her words as if she's always right. So arguments start to rise in the household.
Back when grandpa was still alive, they used to argue with little things. Old age must have contributed a lot for their moods. When they were younger, grandpa was always the one willing to compromise and adjust. He'll go out for a moment to breathe some air whenever their tones start to rise.
Now that she's now alone, grandpa's death created big impact to her everyday routine. She's always having erratic moods and she's now very sensitive.
That means to say that everybody in the house must adjust to her mood swings, her orders and requests.
Despite all this stubbornness prevailed, she's still the queen of the family. She deserves all the love, care and attention the whole family must put into. If it wasn't for her, we wouldn't be here to witness how wonderful and cruel the world is.
Still, regardless of the challenges we face, we are sure that the family will work for hand in hand to face every single bit of it. She's 87 and still rocking this world.
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