Is It Really Necessary To Have Closure?

Closure. an act or process of closing something, especially an institution, thoroughfare, or frontier, or of being closed. (definition from Google)

Generally speaking, closure is known as a term used for relationships. It usually happens when two people express themselves about the relationship they have or had.

In your opinion, is closure necessary?

As for me, it is necessary. However, a closure happens when both parties agree to do it. Both should be open-minded to hear each other's sentiments to clear things out so "what ifs" will be prevented when you start to move on.

It's not just about settling for what is left in the relationship but it's more about freeing yourself from the pain your past has caused you. It may not work all the time but having the courage to take that step is gold.

Twenty-Five, Twenty One

I just recently finished watching this series and I have come up with a handful of realizations after.

Don't lose hope, believe in yourself

When things don't shape the way you want them to be, and it feels like you have got all the problems in the world, always remember to find a glimpse of hope out of that situation.

You will meet someone out there, not necessarily you'll end up as a couple, who will be that source or anchor of hope to remind you to keep going. Most of the time when you are alone, you get drowned by negativities so you leave yourself no room for positivity.

Know what or where you stand for

There's a character in the series who portrayed a strong personality by standing up for what she believes in. She remained straight to what she defined as right.

A scene where a teacher keeps on hitting students for no apparent reason. If he sees someone who violates his rules, he always resorts to violence. And so, this girl tried to sue him and reported him to the police but ends up getting frustrated and worse, dropped out of school.

She voluntarily quit school because she couldn't handle the hypocrisy and deceit anymore. She really stands for what she believes in and owns up to her truth.

Keep the people who matter to you

Keep your circle small but intact. Quality over quantity. When you reach adulthood, what makes life more valuable to you is the people around you that keep you sane.

A friendship that lasts forever is the greatest thing of all. You may not share the same bloodline but what you all believe in is very close and personal. I'm kind of jealous of those people who remained close even after school.

They are still very good friends until now. They are classmates in high school, got separated in college but still managed to gather even if they are already professionals. That level of friendship is for keeps. They've got many stories to share in their lives. They have each other's back and got covered.

Have closure to clear things up

I have mentioned already above that it is important for me to have closure not because it is a need but more importantly I know the feeling of being left out in the relationship.

The odd truth is that I was the one who initiated the breakup but I did not get the answer that I needed. I end up thinking about what went wrong. I know it was communication and time issues but I wanna know more about his perspective.

When I suggested for us to talk, he was not willing to do it and so that left me countless questions about why it happened. I realized how important closure is. It is to clear issues up so you won't have baggage from the past and move on with a cleansed heart.

I just wished he could have had the open mind to speak up and express what he feels. But, it's him. I can't force him to do it if he doesn't feel like doing it but it hurts. I don't know, maybe it's best to settle like this. For sure he has his own reason.

Thanks for reading.

Keep safe everyone!