Examples of Mixed Signals I Give or Have Experienced

Have you ever had given mixed signals to someone? This is when a person's words or actions suggest one thing, but their tone, body language, or other nonverbal cues suggest something different.

This generates confusion or uncertainty in whatever relationship you have with a person. As the recipient of the signals, it confuses them how to interpret conflicting messages.

Women, to be very exact, are experts in giving mixed signals. I for one, is guilty of this. I guess it's common in women's language. Although I'm not generalizing all because some women are very direct and firm to their feelings.

To elaborate this, here are some of the mixed signals I give or have experienced:

Saying "I love you" but not committing to a relationship.

This is something I had experienced. Remember the situationship I shared here before? That guy said those words but did not mean it. I guess we all had those experiences back when we were younger?

When you are still on your teenage years, love is something you thought you are very passionate about. That stage is where you're oozing with overwhelming emotions and you tend to take impulsive actions leading to an undesirable or unfortunate situation.

But I guess that's normal. We were still young and we were still immature during those times. That's where we learn and demonstrate personal growth and development.

Being hot and cold in communication, sometimes responding immediately and other times taking hours or even days to reply.

This is so me. Bullseye. Me and my unpredictable, seasonal, disappearing, and aloof behavior. I can be very active one day but disappears in no time. It depends on how my mood predicts me.

I always think that there's something wrong in me when it comes to consistency with communication but it's just how I cope up with things. I create walls and boundaries against people but can be very entertaining too when I like someone. However, I have learned my lesson so I have to guard my heart and build even taller and stronger boundaries.

Saying you're okay but you're not.

Was there a situation where you have to deny your true feelings to get over from the situation and prevent complications?

"It's not a big deal, it's nothing." This can be a form of manipulation too. You're giving out mixed signals to yourself. You're gaslighting yourself that you're fine but not. I get that it's our way of uplifting and reassuring ourselves that we will be eventually but I believe that it's better to acknowledge the situation and from there, set goals to resolve issues with yourself.

The tendency is that it's dangerous when you suppress your feelings. You'll get sick and be very emotionally unstable. Reach out and ask help. There is strength in vulnerability.

Your mom being frustrated about you helping the household chores then says "nevermind, I'll do it. Just go." but complains about nobody helping her in the house.

Now let's end this article lightly. It has gone way too serious already. Has your mom or wife complained about this too?

I have experienced that back when I was a teenager. My main assignment in the house was to wash the dishes and sweep the yard. I needed a lot of practice to get things done greatly but during those early days, mom usually got frustrated about my work.

Those were the days where I was so confused what to do but I guess, that was just a result of her being tired from work. Now I understand why she reacted that way, from an adult version of me point of view. I find it funny looking back how those days were.

Mixed signals can be frustrating and difficult to deal with, as they can leave you uncertain about where you stand with the other person. In these situations, it's often helpful to try to communicate openly and honestly with the other person to clarify their intentions and feelings.

Did someone gave you mixed signals as well? How did you handle it?

Thanks for reading.

Keep safe everyone!