Did I Hope For A Star A Bit Too Far?

For the past two articles, I have shared about how to handle disappointments and the factors affecting our lives of being too busy to live.

For this article, I admit this is going to be a depressive one. It is about being frustrated with the things you want so badly but seems too far than you ever thought.

There's something in your life you're struggling with even if you know deep inside in your system, you are doing everything to make it happen but that star is just too far to reach. How frustrating that is?

Is it now time to quit or does this mean that it's just not meant for me? Did I hope for a star a bit too far?

When you have finally decided to let go of that dream, you will be undergoing to a process of despair. It is a stage where you are in the brink of questioning your decisions in life if it is right or wrong.

Here's to help you go through despair:

Take a walk.

Cliche as it may sound but nature really helps to ease your mind and get rid of stress. Once a day, you get out of your house and embrace the heat of the sun. Getting vitamin D takes you to a sense of comfort by which your mind gets relieved by it.

Take a daily dose of endorphins and serotonin. These are happy hormones. Where can you get these? There are a lot of sources where you can get attached to it. It could be from someone you feel so happy to be with, a spot in your city where you feel so relaxed looking at a certain view, a view in the beach where you get to witness the sunrise.

That way, it starts your day with a positive note. It sets the vibe of eliminating negativities and set the tone.

Acknowledge that you are in pain.

Awareness is the first step to moving on. I believe being aware should be the first one to consider and if you are already, acceptance comes through.

You must face the situation that you are in pain. Acknowledge it and do something about it. Don't deny it. It will serve you no good. When you acknowledge the fact that you are not feeling good, you are already starting to defeat that monster inside your head.

You need time to acknowledge the situation and if that happens, you are rewarding yourself.

If someone goes through hellish circumstances, you can't just advice him/her to think happy thoughts always. Sometimes, your body needs to release the toxins by crying as it helps to get rid of that burden you're feeling inside.

Just like with Sadness in the animation film "Inside Out". Sadness took the spotlight to take over Riley's emotions because that's what she really feels. You can't fake emotions, that's toxic.

Seek out for help.

When you have finally acknowledged that you are not okay, you should go through the process of moving on with people you trust and feel safe with. That way, you don't feel like you're alone fighting it.

Isolation will just feed your mind a lot of negativity. When you are done processing things by your own and you have already accepted it that you need help, it's time to open up to someone or to support groups who share the same ordeals as you. Someone who understands your situation. That's crucial.

Avoid toxic positivity.

Instead of giving out comforting words, you are making the situation worse. I know you intend to help the person move on but sometimes it becomes insensitive to those who are truly suffering.

Don't provide too many solutions to the person. Sometimes, they already know the way out, it's just that they need a company to go with them and reassure them that they're not alone.

You can't treat a wound overnight. It goes through a process. A process of timing, acceptance, will and determination.

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Thanks for reading.

Keep safe everyone! ❤