Cheating is a problem that deals with emotional pain. I have encountered and read so many cases of people cheating. I have read poems and blogs of people about how painful it was for them to be cheated on. People are surprisingly very creative when it comes to their reasons for cheating. Cheating in a relationship includes so many factors. Texting or chatting with someone else that you keep secret to your love partner is already considered cheating. I once read that the only reason for you to keep a secret to your partner is when you are preparing a surprise for them. I forgot where I read that but it was true (for my opinion). Some say that without physical contact or whatnot is not considered cheating. And some say that it's the environment that makes them cheat or their nature and some say that it's peer pressure. I find it fascinating to hear some of their reasons especially those who say that it was their only way to solve a problem.
Let us tackle some reasons why people cheat in a relationship. It may not be the reason for some but I think these are some of the reasons.
Immaturity.
If they are still immature in handling a relationship and is if they still lack that maturity in their minds, people may not be ready for a serious relationship and they tend to cheat.
Insecurities
When a person is insecure he tends to be doing some immature things, cheating included. Some people feel like they're not good enough or that the other person. Too young, too old, too skinny, too fat, less fortunate or not rich enough, too bad for him/her, etc. Their insecurities sometimes lead to cheating. And to satisfy his/her ego, he/she finds validation to other people because they think of themselves as "not good enough" for their current partner.
Selfishness
As I said in my previous blogs, people are selfish by nature in some ways. Sometimes people are too selfish that they only consider themselves, they consider their own happiness, their own satisfaction, own benefits, and whatnot so they tend to start keeping secrets to you with no regret and eventually it leads to cheating.
Childhood abuse or life issues
The cheater must've encountered a trauma in his/her childhood that leads to an emotional impact in her life. The emotional, physical, and mental trauma that made him'her hard to commit in one person only or hard to just commit to a person. Life issues that lead to one's addictions like alcohol, drugs, and an outlet to their stress can lead to cheating. They think that talking to someone else is better especially when they get emotionally validated of the other person and eventually it will lead to a more intimate talk and possibly an intimate relationship. This opens us to our new reason,
Dissatisfaction and desire in diversity
When people have life issues and they want validation and you weren't able to give the validation they want, they look for other people for that validation. Or if some people have a desire in diversity, choices. They don't stick to one and tries different types of choices until they are satisfied.
Superiority
Some people think that they are better than others and that they deserve better than you. They think that they are very important and that you will never leave whatever happens and whatever they do. This feeling can lead to cheating because they think that even cheating is not enough reason to let go of someone like them... "the best" as what they think of themselves. Best you've ever had... So some people with this kind of attitude think they also think that they need someone that matches their character, someone special. He/she thinks he/she's unique and feels like they should reward themselves with a better lover that is also super duper special like them. (in Tagalog, mga mafeeling!)
Unrealistic expectations
People in relationship demand for things. Expect things. Sometimes our expectations are so unrealistic and it leads to dissatisfaction which also a reason why people cheat. When the person feels his needs are unmet, they look for other people to meet those desires and expectations. Sexual desire is one of the major things people have unrealistic expectations. Which leads us to our next reason
Desire for sex
Sexual desire can lead to a big problem that starts with cheating. Some people have sexual expectations with their partner and when they are not satisfied, some people find that desire to other people aside from their partner. Sexual desire is dangerous that one should be careful for. Some people are satisfied with their sexual expectations to their partner but because of their desire in variety in sex, they tend to cheat and look for others to fulfill their other desires in sex.
Anger/Revenge
Some people are emotional especially when they are mad or been hurt. Some people take revenge when they've been hurt and it results in cheating. For example, the cheater was hurt by her lover so he cheats her to get revenge. Another example, the cheater was always cheated on and decides to cheat every man he commits to get the satisfaction of revenge. Other people do cheating if they've been hurt by their partner and they want their partner to know that they are cheating to hurt their partner too.
Wants to end the relationship
People sometimes want the other person to break up with them so they cheat. Instead of telling you that they want to break up with you, they cheat so that when you find out, you will be the one to break up. Sometimes cheaters do this because they want to break up but they need to have someone on their life before they break up with you so they cheat first. Wanting to break up with you not necessarily means that he has just fallen in love with you, or maybe it does, but sometimes, people want to break up with you even when they still love you. Maybe we can talk about that in my future article.
Fallen out of love.
When a person has fallen out of love with you, that person wants to get out of the relationship or he can't so sometimes they think that cheating is the only way to solve their problem. Staying in a relationship for some reasons may result in cheating because they don't love you anymore and they think they don't have a choice but to cheat anymore.
Sometimes cheating is not in the mind of that person but with the given chance of the moment, they do it. And I personally think that's a weak character. being easily tempted in cheating. I don't tolerate cheating for any reason. But that's just me. We are all different. Some people give a chance to their partner. Maybe I can too, who knows, But as much as possible I wouldn't want to be in that kind of situation.
Thanks for reading my article hope this helps others in this kind of situation.
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