@Jdine
It's okay to say 'No' Many of us think that when we disagree we are rude, arrogant, not grateful, or something similar to these. And this is the reason why others say 'yes' to something they don't like. Truth is, saying 'no' isn't such a bad thing in a lot of ways. It's not something that defines your gratefulness, your sincerity, and your decency. Whenever you're not comfortable, whenever you think it's not appropriate, and whenever you don't feel like it, it is always okay to say no. You have the right to say no. You even have the right to remain silent and say 'no' to answering questions. As what the law implies. Did you know that in other countries like the USA, when a police officer asks you to pull over and you say, "I don't answer questions' no matter what they ask you about, they should respect that. Well, given the fact that you aren't (obviously) guilty of anything against the law or if you have a warrant or whatnot. At least this is what I heard and watched.
Saying 'no' and disagreeing with things that you are not comfortable with is a practice that says you respect yourself. And when you respect yourself, it means you love yourself. When you respect and love yourself, no one can give you less respect and love for yourself. Saying this (no) however, should be in a proper manner as much as possible. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that saying 'no' is always good. Common sense enters the picture now. Saying 'no' to bad things in general and bad for you is one thing, saying 'no' to things things that creates great opportunity,thus, is a different story. I hope I'm making it clear so to not be blamed of someone's decision based on my statement. With that being said, go and say 'no' to abusing relationships, say 'no' to bullying, say 'no' to personal attacks and insulting, say 'no' to disrespects, say 'no' to things that's not good for you and for anyone. 😉💜😊 LIKE COMMENT SUBSCRIBE and UPVOTE if you like my article 💜
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Very true!
haha. relate much sis??? 😆
I agree. Saying no and contradicting what others would say and ask doesn't mean we are rude. However, we should express it nicely not to hurt others feeling and not to mislead them thinking we are mean😊
exactly! i agree with you. even if we disagree we still have to do it nicely not to offend anyone.
We should know how to say NO! there are things that not acceptable. Love this article
yes don't settle for less and don disrespect yourself for not disagreeing if you really want to. 😊
Intotally agree. When I was younger, I was always intimidated in saying no to someone or anyone thingking that I might offend them. I didn't realized that me always saying yes to other make me say no to myself. And therefore people always takes advantage of me. Later on, I have learned to say no to things that I don't want and to people who just uses me. This is a good one as always @Jdine 😊👍
There also came a time I was always saying yes thinking it make them like me more. But eventually I realized that it's not a basis for someone to like you. They'll like you even more if they see you respect yourself. 😉
Same here. I thought they will like me more too. But then I realize too that i have to have respect in myself. And id rather be a God pleaser than people pleaser. Aja!!! satin na na-overcome ito!!!😅😅
hahhaa hephep hooorrrraaaayy!! hahhaa...
Exactly.Before,i could not really say "no"to my friends especially when they invited me to some galaan. I was afraid that if I refuse/say no to them they might cut off our friendship . But my mother told me that it is not bad to refuse/or say no,especially when you know at the first,the things will get bad.
oh friends. yeah we are very attached to them and care for them so much that we will do almost what they say or ask just to have them around.. I was like that when I was younger. Then I realized, when they're really your friend, no matter how different your decision is to them, they will stay and will support you. Friendship like any other relationship needs respect too. 😊 you're mother is right and it's a good thing you listen to your mom. 😊
I'm thankful that i listen to my mom coz what if i didn't?i think i'll be miserable with those kind of friends.
mothers knows best as what they always say. Not just because they're mom but becauSe they have experienced almost everything, if not, at least they witnessed enough to know what's bad for you and what's not. at least that's what I believe in. 😊
wAhhhh you're right,i guess you're a very good mother to your son coz you already experience what your son could go through.Your son will be so proud of you ate @Jdine!!😊🤗
oh thanks. I try to be as good as I can be. I hope i'm doing great haha. we'll know shen he grows up and tell me how I was as a mother haha
Yeppp,you should ask him haha dyan magkakaalaman HHAHAHAHA
bigla ako natakot magtanong hhahaa
Yaah i agreee learn how to refuse if you are uncomfortable or when they ask things that trampled your principles. Anyways i just remember the issue of taylor swift and kanye west wherein taylor refused to call him a bitch in the song of kanye west written. It is a huge issue to the point that the phone call leaked. It just that even though you already said no many people are still persistent to disregard your opinion and even to do bad deed to you.
oh i didn't know about that issue but she was right. no one should ever call you names.. no one should ever insult you. I don't even agree when people say ,"who are they to judge you when they don't feed you.. " i think, even when they feed you, you should never take an insult and disrespect.. You only have yourself to protect you sometimes. and we should be brave enough and ready. 😊
Yesss the album reputation especially the song look what you made me do was written because of him. Taylor is so brave that she face all criticism. Its so sad that even though you are the one being insulted yet some people are turning their tables on you that an saying you are acting as victim. Media is so manipulative sometimess. Anyways haha thank you for replying to my comments even though the issue is not one of your interests 😂❤️
well, that's a reality we all should be ready about. people will judge you based on what they believe in and who they idolized. Being brave and stepping up is not like your acting all hollywood and playing victim. And also, if you think really closely, it can't be considered acting if it's real. She was a real victim of shaming and insults, given the fact it's true. Am I right or Am I correct hahaha
You are right and correct hahaha❤️
I am the type of person who can't say no when my friends ask some favor to me. This article gave some realization that maybe, i should start saying no and take care of myself.
yes you should start thinking about yourself first, bro. Saying no to them doesnt mean you dont want to be friends anymore. it's just that we all have different views and wants and capabilities. 😊 they will stay no matter what, that's what friends are for. 😊
Saying no can be right, but then, we might be missing understood if 'NO'is said to people like our parents. Some cultures believe that only your parents are right and you might never get the chance to speak your own opinion. I love when you said we should say 'no'with sense. Thanks for this inspiration, it means a lot to me
yeah culture sometimes is a big factor. like what you said, some cultures believe that parents are always right. But when a father is abusing a daughter in any form, the daughter has the right to say ,'no daddy i won't tolerate this....' this will make her more safe. but yeah saying no depends on the situation and we should avoid using it to abuse it's power.
I agree, no doesn't always mean that it's negative. If it's for your own good we have all the rights to say no. We have to think if we'll always agree and say yes, the negative results will just backfire on us. Of course ypur answer whether yes or no depends on the situation we are in, bit don't forget that no is not always a bad option❤
yeah. just like saying no to spammers... hahhaa. is that correct... 😊😉
Yep, you can say no depending on the situation. Saying no will not define your character.
i agree. and it will not define your relationship with the person youre saying no to. You may lovr the person so much but if you disagree to some things, it doesnt mean you dont love him already...
Say No to all that can cause you hurt and can harm you in any possible way.
saying no to someone simply means you don't agree with him. It should never be considered as something bad or/and insulting.
yep. I agree, however there are people that couldn't take no for an answer. and we should be ready to handle this kind of situation and stand up for what you think is right
yeah. For some saying no is just like you insulted them somehow. Those people are hard to deal with sadly.
yeah as if they never said no. the fact that they don't accept no for an answer is already considered saying no haha.. if that makes any sense haha
It does make a sense actually haha. I got your point. They are simply saying no to everyone who doesn't share their point of view. So that's a little hidden no XD
haha and having that mind set (not taking no as an answer) is being hypocrite. haha then you should say yes to no if you don't accept no.. this is thought is becoming confusing haha
a little XD but it makes a sense, not accepting no as an answer is hypocrite indeed. your point of view is very accurate.
A lot of people actually need to know this simple truth. Learn to say NO and when saying it, say it with your full chest
and at least say it in a good manner even when you got your chest out. 😊
Saying "No" means a lot.Maybe you disagree,you do want,you are not interested or even you don't have time for it.Sometimes people misinterpret the word "No". So we really need to explain them what was "no" means, when we are saying it.
when raising a child, every time you say no you have to explain it to the child for him fo fully understand why... you don't just say no. you say for example 'no you cant do that cause it will hurt your fingers...' these kind of things
Its true. Learn to say no without explaing anything.
well sometimes you don't have to explain yourself to anyone. but sometimes you do. haha depends on the situation.
I'm learning that art. Filipinos are inclined in saying "hm, let me see" or "I will try" to an invitation than saying NO.
yeah. so much hospitality, i guess. and it's unhealthy..
Very well said. Sometimes, saying 'no' does not make you less of a person, or do not consider you a horrible one. There are certain situations where you SHOULD actually say no or disagree. Specially when things get messy, and you think you are at risk.
fact. That is a fact. can you imagine someone saying yes everytime? he will be target of bullies.