I'm Home in His Arms

January 30, 2022

When we are in a relationship, there are lots of things that needs to be considered. Lots of factors that need to looked into for a relationship to get longer until you both end up together till' the last breaths of your lives.

Relationship is not like a game that everytime a couple misunderstands each other you can just easily let go of both your feelings. When, relationship became unhealthy to both of you because of any circumstances then each of you or one of you will just let go without clearing things out. It's like leaving without any permission. Leaving each other without any closures. Maybe that's one of the reason why there's hatred.

When I meet my partner now, I actually never thought of loving him because at first I never felt yet the love as they say. All I felt when he courted me is admiration, I admired him because his true to himself and then when time passed of being together I started to felt the said love and now we are already together for 3 years and 5 months. I know that the time that we'd stayed together isn't like the others whom stayed 8 years or more before settling down. But you know, I believed that time is not what makes a couple stayed together because I've seen couple who were in a relationship for 8 years or more but still doesn't end up together. I also seen couples who became girlfriend and boyfriend for just less than a month but now they both end up together and stayed longer. So, time actually is not what matters.

For me, what matters is the will of each other to choose on staying together. The understanding part is what makes a relationship longer. Communication, the respect and of course the love makes a relationship foster. I admit that my relationship with my partner is not perfect, well no relationship is perfect though. In our case, we had lots of arguments on small things because of misunderstandings. We sometimes fight on some reason but what peculiar is that the reason of our fight is not that huge, it's just a small thing that we both misunderstood. When, we were still a boyfriend girlfriend we rarely had fights but when we stayed together, living in together because we had a son. Therefore, we chose to lived together and while living together of course expect that it's not all a happy moments. Because when we stayed together with our son we somehow knew of what really our attitude is and there was come a time that we showed what our attitude is especially me since I had this attitude that when I got too angry I can't control myself of hitting him which he never expected me to do. With that we almost separate but then again we tried to talked about it and still chose to settle down together because our decision doesn't only depends on us. Since we have a son, so we decided to talked and understand each other flaws and now were happily living together and already understand each others mood. What I also liked at him, is that everytime we have misunderstanding he really tried his best to settle it immediately and sometimes I felt guilty because of my pride. That's why I really change myself, I let him understand that I don't like this and that and told him what he must do everytime I'm not in a mood for us not be have arguments. Then, I'm glad he really did what I say and now it's been a while that we had a fights because he already knows what he would do if I felt not in the mood and of course it's a vice versa.

As a couple, UNDERSTANDING each others side really what matters most. Respecting each other is one as well. I just hoped that we will end up together till our last breaths and will be able to resolved our upcoming arguments if there is any because in a relationship, arguments and fights is always present for it made the relationship stronger.

Now, I really felt the HOME IN HIS ARMS.

Im home in his arms in the sense that I am much comfortable to be with him and of course he was also comfortable of himself to be with me. Comfortable in a way that I can fart anytime even he was there beside me, he was the one who always get the hairs in my armpits and I don't care if it smells not good. (Haha) Shyness does not prevail at all, I'm even comfortable showing him all because he also doesn't made me felt insecure of myself and that's what I like about my partner.

Being a couple, of course secrets must not be present. Both must be transparent in every aspect like finances, feelings, where to go and etc. Because it is important as a couple to also avoid quarrels especially that we are now a family for we already have a son.

Understanding, respect, love, transparency are for me the best to be present in a relationship for it to stayed longer.

Will you agree with me?

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