What is the valid and acceptable reason why people lied?
Have you ever lied? What is the reason why you lied? It is for your own benefits or for someone else?
Lying is the most cause of any arguments. With a single lie, it can change the persons perspective and impression towards you. It can make people not to trust and believe in you.
What’s in a lie
A lie is “a deliberate choice to mislead,” says Paul Ekman, PhD, a psychologist, author, and professor emeritus at the University of California, San Francisco.
“Most (if not all) human relationships involve some form of deceit or at least the possibility of it,” Ekman contends.
“Lies occur between those we love and trust as much as they do with those we dislike, and even happens among complete strangers.”
Ekman draws a clear line between lying, which involves intent to deceive, and simply making false statements rooted in bad memory, misinterpretation, or individual belief without intent to deceive. He sees two main types of lies:
Concealing: Someone asks how your day was, and you shrug it off and fail to mention you were fired.
Falsifying: Someone asks how your day was, and you say you were promoted when you were actually fired.
Simple enough. But like a tangled web, lying gets much more complex when psychologists parse the underlying motivations.
“People lie for a lot of reasons, most of which are not intentionally hurtful,” Serota says.
“People lie to avoid others, to protect others’ feelings, to protect themselves, to promote themselves, or for some personal gain (and sometimes for the benefit of others)."
“Sometimes they do it to be funny, to get a laugh and participate in humorous banter,” he continues.
“Least often they do it to be mean or hurtful. Sometimes they don’t even know why they do it.”
Why we lie
“Lying is a really central human activity. It involves us all in our relationships,” Lewis says. “It’s likely to be on a continuous basis throughout the day.” And we learn early on. “Children are capable of lying certainly by two or two and a half of age,” he says.
“We lie to protect the feelings of others,” Lewis says. “We’re taught to be polite, thank people for gifts even if we think they’re awful.” And nearly everyone (ethicists aside) agrees these kinds of lies are acceptable, he argues.
If you buy this idea that lying is acceptable and common, then Lewis suggests you learn to do it well. Let’s say your partner gets a haircut and asks how they look. “If you’re going to lie, which I think you should, you’re going to say it looks great,” he reasons, leaning on the idea that people close to us don’t always want to hear the truth of your criticisms. “And you’re always going to have to say it looks great.” You can’t change your tune later on. “There’s a moral obligation to do it well if it’s done to protect another person,” he says.
Lying for self-protection, on the other hand, might seem wrong to many people. Until they’re asked to reflect a bit.
https://elemental.medium.com/liar-liar-we-all-lie-but-why-cd99e2d3e4ab
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So many reasons why people lie, good or bad, for own benefit or not, a LIE will always be a LIE. Some may understand why you lie, but some were not. But whatever the reason is, please make it sound valid and acceptable. 😁😁😁
So now,
What is the reason you lie? 😁
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Thanks for the info. 🤗