We are in a dispensation where the word 'love' is now used more than often intended. It now seems that all you need do to be loved is to do the right things. As a guy, to be loved;
Smell good
Have Money
Look Good
Be Intellectually Sound
Be Vast in Matters/ Topics
While as a girl;
Look Sexy
Smell Nice
Be Humble
Be Submissive
Be Vast & Intelligent
These are what the Society of today requires to make you become loved. However, this is a far cry from what love is all about.
According to Apostle Joshua Selman, love is not feeling, though it entails feelings. This is where the Society is getting it wrong. The qualities stated above enables you have a positive disposition towards that person, not love. This brings us to feelings. What are Feelings?
Feelings are temporary dispositions attached to a person or thing because of attributes shown. Feelings look so sincere which is why it is being mistaken as love most a times. A melodious voice is a great reason to love someone, but if that person snores and instead of you commenting the snore or smiling, you abandon that person,you were never in love, you were only led by your feelings to believe you loved. A person might pick a Banking career cos they think they are in love with it, only to realize in the far end that they only chose Banking because they saw others smile out the Bank, so they say to themselves "I want to be a Banker so I would smile out of the Bank!"
The issue of who loves you is very important cos if you come to seem to be loved by a person, when meanwhile all that happened was feelings it comes to leave a mark on us. So what is love?
Love to me is basically a combination of Sacrifice, Passion, Commitment, and Pleasure. If a person claims to love you and as little as one of these is absent, that love is void.
Love is sacrifice in the sense that to facilitate that love, you forgo so many things that are toxic to that thing or person. It means you put the person's welfare or that thing's position as number 1.
Love as Passion is the pocket where Feelings come into play. For you to love, you must have feelings. This goes on to say feelings is a form of love, but love is not feelings. It is basically your willingness to pursue after what you love without being embarrassed.
Commitment is an expression of love because to love a person or idea, you have to choose to grow in the love for it. Sometimes, you have to pick it above other things. This talks about your belief in a thing which enables you stay glued to it.
Pleasure is one detailed expression of love. All work and no play, they say makes Jack a dull boy. Unless you have fun and laughter from that thing you love, you don't live it. This is because love gladdens,it makes happy those who have it at heart..
Love is a beautiful thing, but what is more beautiful is having someone who loves you with all sincerity.
Good one