How do you normally deal with the so-called LUST?
Are you okay with premarital sex?
Do you know anyone who got pregnant at an early age?
Were they able to cope?
Are you someone who got pregnant at an early age?
How were you able to cope?
TEENAGE RELATIONSHIP
I wouldn't need to discuss how to get pregnant here because I know you are aware with that. (LOL!)
Let us talk about the reasons why your parents wouldn't want you to enagage in a relationship with opposite sex.
Now a days, teenagers at the age of 13-18 may get pregnant. They enter into relationship and get engaged into premarital sex then when they break up pretend as if it is nothing, while others might also become depress as they gave their all to someone they aren't meant to be. (Pinaglandi pero di tinadhana!)
Good thing I am not into guys so I did not get to experience this and I have this feeling of being afraid of getting pregnant since we are poor and I don't wanna add burden to my parents so I am fine, if a guy would leave me just because I don't want to have sex with him because I value more my future than lust. (Which actually happens to me in real life, may his soul rest in peace haha!)
But if you are a teenager reading this lemme cite some reasons as to why your parents wouldn't allow you to get into a relationshit, opps I mean relationship:
Control over your Emotion
Parents have already gone through a lot of challenges and known various of people throughout their lives, as a Teenager, you wouldn't know how to control your emotion and distinguish love vs. infatuation. So don't be too shock when they freak out when you started to have bf/gf. Some teenagers would even commit suicide when being cheated. You don't have control over your own emotion and tend to decide while at the peak which may bring you trouble.
LUST
Teenagers are much naive. Compared to adult who can take responsibility, teeangers are often controlled by their own emotion and can easily be manipulated with things they knew from peers or from the internet. Some teenagers were already aware of porn sites while they shouldn't be browsing it but they have this curiosity that they can never control.
Lack of Experience
It takes a lot of time in order for you to learn things about life and struggles to make you grow. Since you are a teenager there would be a lot of things to improve and learn so you have to give yourself sometime to explore the wonders of life and nature instead of getting too much insterested over someone who is not even 100% sure if they are really meant for you.
Relationship can wait, if a love is true it should be able to wait.
As much as possible, especially girls value your self and know your worth. A guy who loves you should remain in love without giving your ALL and that should WAIT til the right time comes if not til your wedding at least to the time that you both are responsible enough not just to take care a CHILD but also to support ONE.
TEENAGE PREGNANCY
Those that I have mentioned above may lead you to getting preggy at an early age. How can you manage to take care of a child when you are still a child for that matter?!
I have seen a lot of teenage moms in FACEBOOK who are way too proud of getting pregnant at an early age. Stating that," It is better to be pregnant than to have an abortion". Would you agree? Well, at some point yes but in the first place you won't get pregnant at an early age if you don't get into PREMARITAL SEX. Yeah?
To this generation, virginity isn't a big thing. For some it is just a hymen that is not been stretched while others believed it symbolizes purity and self-respect.
But may I remind you that when you get pregnant or when you get someone pregnant your responsibility does not end just by making sure the baby will be born or by acknowledging the child. You will be raising your LEGACY.
That LEGACY will someday become someone's girlfriend or boyfriend then eventually will become a mother or father.
Your mistake today can be a poison of tomorrow.
Get pregnant when you are ready not because you were horny.
Let us "NOT NORMALIZE TEENAGE PREGNANCY".
Disclaimer: This article isn't to disgrace teenage parents but to educate/inform the cons of getting into an early relationship and being pregnant at an early age.
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Thank you for your time. Hope you will be an instrument as well to enlighten our youth.
Very well said,this article of yours serves as warning to both parents and children.We parents should be observant everytime and children should follow what their parents say because it will not mislead youβ€οΈ