Distinguish: Envy & Admiration

Today is such a great day!

I had two co-Club1BCH Member who reached their 1BCH Goal!

Congrats both @meitanteikudo and @carisdaneym2 !

As I read their posts and how happy they are reaching their goal I had a flashback of me and my moms conversation before.

Flashback

I saw how my neighbors were so happy. We are looking from a far while they were trying to test drive their new car, just a few months ago they also won a motorcycle from a Shopping Mall. They were just like us before in a laymans term"isang kahig isang tuka" or shall we say we would have to work hard before we can eat and sometimes our earnings are not even enough to support our needs.

Our neighbor has 2 daughters who were older than me for just a year or two. They graduated with flying colors but they have gone through so much too. I knew their story because their family and mine were friends. Way back when our place was not that crowded they were one of those few neighbors we had exchanging veggies and meal when my mom or grandma would cook much or if there is any occasion. They would also do the same. That was just one of those good old days.

Going back, as I look at them I feel a slight sadness. I asked myself,"When can we experience our luck?".

You see, I am working my ass off. I am a breadwinner supporting my Brother to College I had too much debts by that time plus I just gave birth. My earnings is not enough for two families and I get to question myself,"Where did I fail? How come I have not been able to give this kind of life to my mom and siblings?".

Then, after dinner I was alone with my mom cleaning the table while she is washing the dishes. Our house is not big so we can talk while doing our chores. I told her,"Ma, I am envious or jealous with my childhood friends. I hope someday we can also have our luck and be like that. When we do not need to worry about money and we can buy the things we want. Am I bad for feeling this way Ma?".

Mama replied,"Nak, no. Admiration and envy are two different things. When you admire you feel that amazement with other people's achievement. You get to be proud of them and you get motivated and set goals in order to achieve the same. On the other hand, being envious or jealous would be like you bad-mouth someone just so they would look bad to others. Say for example, when your colleague gets promoted and someone is envious that person would make up stories just so your colleague who got promoted will be fired so she could fill the position."

These feelings as human beings were part of our Nature. We just gotta learn to distinguish it and of course know that it is never good to feel jealous towards other people's achievement.

In Facebook, I do not get to post achievement or earnings, not even the places where I enjoy or just a simple stroll in the Mall because I never knew who may feel envious or jealous. Some would make you feel bad about posting those stuffs and would tag you insensitive when you are just trying to share positive vibes and sharing what makes you happy.

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I know that who I am today is because of how my mom have raised me. She may not be able to provide us before with what we needed. I remembered, she would always tell us before allowing us to play with our neighbor not to touch their toys even if how beautiful it is because it is not ours and if we like to play with it to ask permission if our playmates would allow if not then we have to respect. In return, whenever she has any extra she would buy some toys for us.

We gotta learn to mind our business if we cannot be happy with others achievements and success. It is not that hard to make other people's achievement a motivation what is hard is feeling self pity, getting depress because you got left behind. It will be harder to be successful when you are focus with other people's lives.

Someday I will reach that #1BCH and more!

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