You Are Not The Main Character In Everybody’s Story

People tend to think they play a central role in someone else’s life, affecting everyone else.

They make the mistake of thinking they are the main character in other people’s stories. These people assume control of the life of those around them and sometimes, they amplify the importance they have in other people’s life. But no matter how they think they are in control, they can not be in charge of another person’s life journey. 

These people are saddled with the task of serving as a life teacher to everyone else around them. They have self-appointed themselves as the ones who must teach others how to live and what is right and what is wrong. They are inconsiderate and inconvenient others. They make it their mission to act like a victim or a martyr. They want everything to revolve around them. They want all other people to mirror their intentions and thoughts. Sadly, They fail to take into consideration how their actions affect others. They see themselves as such a philanthropist, that they fail to see how selfish they really are. They imagine that people owe them something, no matter what they do. They believe that everything works out for them.

Many people find themselves being the supporting characters in other people’s stories. Whether you’re a friend, a coworker, or a family member, you can sometimes feel as if you are supporting characters in the story of someone else’s life. But if we’re being honest with ourselves, we often times forget that we’re the main characters in our own stories. We become so wrapped up in the stories of others that we forget to keep our energy focused on our own life. Right, we need to direct most of our life energy to ourselves. I am not saying that you shouldn’t be concerned about others or try to check up on them, what I am trying to say is that we shouldn’t try to take the driver’s seat of other people’s life. We can support them by staying in the back seat, giving them advices and suggestions, but not take the wheel from them.

We shouldn’t be like most people that feel like they are the main character in every interesting story that happens to them. That they are the most important person in their friend’s life and their parents’ world. They complain that their friends don’t call them enough, that their parents never come to visit. Today, I would like to let you know something a little more fundamental to life: you are not the main character in everybody’s story.

Also, sometimes, Our egos make us think that everything revolves around us. We try to take charge of other people’s lives, we give advice and try to “fix” things for people. But you are only one character in many stories.

I’ve seen people give advice to others in Facebook groups and other platforms. I have seen people on around me giving advice to others about their relationship problems. But it should end there. When we come to the realization that we aren’t in charge of other people’s life, we’d feel less disappointed in life. 

The bottom line is that no one owes you anything, likewise, you don’t owe anyone anything; when you understand this, you will direct more time and focus to yourself. 

You cannot expect people to be there for you because you are there for them, and just because you want them to be or because they should be. No one is obligated to do anything they don’t want to do… ever. Remember we are just another minor character in their story. They can choose to create a whole new world without including us. “Basically, they are the Thanos in their world, and we also are in ours”. But I think people forget that from time to time. And when they do, it leads to a lot of disappointment.

I spent some of my life expecting the world to stop and carry me along with it, and when it didn’t happen I was disappointed. Life’s a journey, and you are the only driver of yours, Stop expecting others to carry you along with their life. You’re in charge of yours, and not theirs.