When Nature Happens

Sometimes we need some space to think about things that concern us. When we have the feeling that things are happening in the wrong way and we can't change it, we relent and take some thoughts, have more time for ourselves and think about the situation for a while. When this happens, we tend to be relieved and get the mind eased. We definitely can't change some situations or stop something from happening, but we can perceive it coming sometimes and still can't stop it. Nature is really mean at its course. Not minding the impact of its action on us, it does what it wants. Even when it hits directly upon us, it sometimes still doesn't care. When we have tried to get things in places and we kill ourselves to see things working well and nature doesn't allow that, we feel bereaved and and that changes our perception towards things that are happening around us.

In our sense of seclusion, we ask ourselves so many questions why. Did we not try out everything possible? what did we not do and in most cases, we blame nature and throw some unanswered questions at it. Yes we tried and even followed all the right and necessary precautions to get things right, but is it by our power that we can't change situations? even when we can do the needful. In our secluded mind, we sometimes blame ourselves for situations happening thinking that if we had done it this way, we would have come to this and the situation would have resulted to this or that.

We are humans, We think and plan for the good but atimes we see the opposite. The opposite happens and we wonder what we did not do right. We create the scene to ease our mind and embrace the situation without even liking it. It is there and has happened. What has happened has happened they say! but does it truly worth it; a question that has the answer based on the positive or negative outcome.

This is life filled with ups and downs, gains and losses. Everyone must come across one in one way or the other once in a lifetime. That is the product of nature. It can be good it can be bad. It could be beautiful and ugly. It doesn't matter our feeling when it takes it course, to our advantage or not, it pretty doesn't care.

When we assemble in happiness, we are filled with love and joy. There is always happiness amongst us and we wish this situation should last forever. But when nature happens again, we assemble in quite and no laughter. Same good feeling we had not long ago has gone missing and we now live without the cheapest smiles on our faces. The person we smiled to, laughed to, hugged and lifted champagne glasses together could be the one motionless, Lying in state. Everything we fight for, the good life we dream of all put to pause because of nature's action.

The feeling when lost happens is sad. It really painful and bereaving. No one would ever want that to happen but even as we keep safe and trying to avoid that situations, it happens like it what we deserve and we can do nothing about it. When the good happens, we're left with nothing but joy and happiness.

We can put in everything and spend more than we have to save a life, if luck be on our side, nature will definitely make us smile but sometimes when we put in everything and spend more than we have, we sadly could not save the life we want. When we struggle for the good of our lives and loved ones, we go extreme to get the best out of it. People sell all they have, trying to fix something or get things right and at the end, they achieve success. Some people does the same and luck runs out of their side. Now the thought of ; why me , did I not do everything right, what happened and many unanswered questions fills the air in our mind.

When others do things and it happens to work out for them, we try our own and it doesn't work out for us, who is to blame despite having done all the necessary things.

An Igbo ( a tribe in Eastern Nigeria) adage says: "ofu nne na-amu mana ofu chi ada eke" which literally means that:" we are born of the same mother but not made by the same God" . To me, this adage explains why we have different outcomes or results despite having doing the same thing in the right ways it should be done.

When we experience the unexpected of this life, all I think is the best thing to do is accept it. Since it happened and we can't change it, let it be so. We would only bear the pain, the lost it the disappointment for a short time of all our lives. With time, it becomes an experience that we had and from here, we could talk to anyone who might be having the experience at any time. Things can only get so much into us if we allow them. We can't possibly change it or stop it from happening. and knowing that we are not the first person to have a lost matters. It has been happening since before our birth. We can only try our best to avoid them from happening to us even though some of these situations doesn't care about how we avoid them and do not want them. That is life for us and we must embrace it..

Most importantly, we need ourselves in times of difficulty, it would do so much better to gather the same way when there is happiness and same if there's unhappiness. A word to a person bearing pain can cause so much relief and could go as far as saving a life. In all situations, I strongly believe that we need ourselves!

Dear readers it was confirmed yesterday that I and my friends lost a friend to the cold hands of death. She has been suffering from kidney failure for a long time unknown to us. She died recently and it still so painful to say. She is a university student in her level 300 but today, we Lost her at a young age of 23. May her soul rest in peace!

let do everything to protect our body organs and systems.

Thanks for reading and God bless you.

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