Control your anger. II
"Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy." – Aristotle
Do you have a lot of anger?
There are psychological tests that can determine how angry one can feel, how quickly one can become irritated, and how effectively one can regulate their anger. But if you do struggle with controlling your anger, odds are good that you already know it. If you observe yourself responding in ways that appear alarming and out of control, you may need support in learning more effective coping mechanisms for this emotion.
While some people display their unhappiness in blatantly spectacular ways, others are consistently furious and dissatisfied. People who get angry easily don't always curse and throw things; they can also isolate themselves from others or go ill.
Quickly agitated people tend to have a low tolerance for frustration or the simple conviction that they shouldn't have to deal with trouble or irritation. They struggle under pressure to remain composed, and they get especially angry if something appears unfair, like receiving criticism for a little mistake.
Why are these people acting in this manner? a variety of things. One or both of genetics or physiology may be involved.
There are several ways that anger might appear. Some people experience continual annoyance or can't stop thinking about an upsetting event. Others get angry less frequently, but when they do, they get angry violently.
Whatever its form, unchecked wrath can be detrimental to one's physical and emotional health. Disaster is a disaster, and then there is regret. We must have been acting out of wrath and wished we could have stopped it later. Research has shown that anger and hostility can both increase the risk of coronary heart disease and exacerbate its symptoms in individuals who already have it. Anger can lead to stress-related illnesses like insomnia, gastrointestinal problems, and headaches. When it goes out of control, anger turns into a sickness that affects its host's body. Have you ever seen someone who is known to be angry? If so, what do they look like?
Rage also has a detrimental effect on relationships with family, friends, and coworkers and can drive aggressive and risky behaviors, such as drug and alcohol use. It is simple to damage both labor and relationships.
How to manage your anger
Anger can be caused by internal or external events. You could become irate at someone, something like the company you work for or something ike a traffic gridlock or a political election. No matter where your feelings came from, you don't have to let your wrath rule your life. Here are several techniques to assist you preserve your composure.
Check yourself out. It's difficult to make good decisions when you're in a persistently bad mood. Try to talk yourself down from the cliff rather than trying to ascend it in the first place. Look for signs that you are starting to worry about yourself. To prevent your annoyance from getting worse, leave the location if you notice the signs or use relaxation techniques.
Avoid remembering the angry past always. Some people have a tendency to bring up the incident that upset them over and over again. That is a useless strategy, especially if you have already resolved the issue that made you angry in the first place. Instead, try to put the earlier event out of your mind. One way to do it is to concentrate on the aspects of the circumstance that are most important to you.
Change the way you think. When you're upset, it's easy to think that everything is worse than it truly is. Using a technique called cognitive restructuring, you can swap out detrimental false beliefs for more sensible ones. Instead of telling yourself "Everything is destroyed," tell yourself "This is frustrating, but it's not the end of the world."
Improve your communication skills. When someone is upset, they frequently make rash decisions and may not always express what is best. Try to halt and pay attentively before acting. Try to fake a smile if you can, then carefully consider your response. If you need to leave the room to cool down before continuing, promise to come back later to finish the conversation. When we want to speak out of anger, a reverend father once counseled us to hold our mouth. This is because once those comments are spoken, they cannot be taken back and will harm.
Know your triggers and avoid them. Consider the things that aggravate you. If you know you always get annoyed while driving downtown during rush hour, consider taking the bus or rearranging your schedule to make the trip at a less busy time. Try to avoid tense discussions at night if you and your partner frequently disagree. If you are constantly annoyed that your child hasn't cleaned his room, close the door so you don't have to. Every time he becomes agitated with his wife, my uncle always claims that he leaves the house rather than staying and hearing his wife's words, which would cause him to regret his behavior.
Although it is natural and healthy, excessive anger can be harmful. Anger cannot be completely eradicated. You can, however, change how those events affect you and how you respond to them. Making an attempt to restrain your rage is in the best interests of both you and the populace.
Thank you for reading lovelies. Have a great weekend.
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