Come back our husbands..

This is a free world and we were made freely, we can do whatever we want and live our life the way it pleases us. Because humans are intelligent and knows what we can do with our intelligence, we created rules and ethics to guide our movement and freedom.

As we grow, we tend to do things that we feel like doing and those restrictions we had as kids will be put aside. Adults listen less to advices from their parents and homes and listen more to friends they have. This is what happens and is common among us. Only few men, gets more close and closer to their parents and follow their words.

It is true that at a stage in life, we make our decision and decide for ourselves what we want and do that we want to do. At times like this, our aura beats our chest.. our tempo high as we get this natural feeling that we can make it on our own. That for me is just adolescence and anyone could be easily carried away by that. I was a victim of that and I gave myself the stick and the carrots rules of life.

In African home for instance, using my locality for example. Some married men no longer spend so much time with their wife and family. They just get back to work, freshen up and eat. The next thing is moving out. If not to see a friend, it will be "I will be back".. I will be back is no place. Telling your family where you are going is so important especially when you took a phone call or going out with your friend. This is just becoming so common in my city. I just imagine sometimes, how a man would leave his family all day for work and on coming back, he goes out again. What actually is pursuing you from home. The family needs you, your beautiful wife and kids will love to spend some time with daddy. Not when they come back from school and wait till nigh night for u to come back and you come back late only for them to be sleeping already. They only see you in the morning.

There is really no enough time for you with them. I thank God I never grew up in such family. I have friends who only sees their dad every weekend, some sees their dad once in a month, all due to the nature of their work but there are father's who live with their children under the same roof but sees each other once a week. this is worse than social distancing per say!

It a pity to say that whenever I travel to my village, I see some father's under a tree playing draft game from morning till evening. This is really happening in my village till present. These men will not do things required of them in their family, they assemble and most of them are alcoholics. This makes me wonder what kind of father they are and what they would tell their children.

In some cases, it is the woman of the house that carries the burden if the house , a woman who you married as your wife whose work is to make your home with what you have, becomes the breadwinner. I used to know a family where the mother pays the children's school fees from the little local. business she does, while the man is jobless.

Some of these men before they get married, looks so good and responsible until after marriage. After they have had kids , they begin to turn into something else I can't explain. Could it be the stresses of marriage or the type of women they married. What actually causes some married men to move out of their homes and wander around at night despite their wife's words I think should have a spiritual explanations.

Some men in the city do the worst. Married men Clubbing and partying with ladies who they hook up with. Some homes in the city miss their dad, not because he travels but because he leaves early in the morning, comes back late at night when the children are sleeping and in the morning, boom! he is out. This might sound funny but true; a child was given a picture of his dad and his uncle to point at his father. He chose his uncle's picture as his father instead. This is because he doesn't even recognize the dad he has been saying. His father doesn't spend weekend and weekdays with him. So, I do not blame the poor boy.

Wives need their husband to stay close and closer to them. Whatever work men do is not an enough reason not to spend times with the people you are working for to create a better living. Except for the case of working abroad, even at that, technology has made things easier. You can video call and reach them all the time.

There are fantastic family out there where the children and the parents play together and even go on vacation, this to me is like another form of education because it bonds the family more. The children speaks directly to their father what they want and their father sees and reply them.

The joy of the house will always be complete when we do what is best for the family. So many women in the world today are missing their husbands and ate crying internally saying "Come back our husbands" come back to who you where before our marriage, come back to the plans we have for our children and home. Come back to being who you used to be , we are missing that part if you we started with. Wives are helpers, they have come into your lives to assist you and be with you and you with them. Come back married men of the world, get back to your home!

How would it have been if the mothers and wives make the same mistakes, if the mothers leave the house at night and have less time for the family, who would the kids be and what kind of children will you have. I have come to realize that women have this closest bond and softhearted. No matter the condition of the home, they still thrive and give it all to take care of their children in their possible best ways. God bless the mothers who knows what they are doing and who contributes positively to their homes.

Men should listen to the words of their wife and stop keeping late night especially leaving the house after dinner to hang around with friends or partying. Remember what you have, married men of the world. You are the pillars of the family, when we have you, we are stronger and ready to conquer but without you husbands, we are weaker. Women need their husband to stay with them especially after a day of struggle. In cities and villages, night wandering around should be stopped except for good reasons.

A wife told her husband who came back with his friend not to go out again because it late. Her husband said that they just want to take some walk around to feel some fresh air. These young men have known each other for just a while and little does the woman's wife know that his friend is a thief. That night, he didn't give ears to his wife and left for a walk with his new friend. As they passed near an uncompleted building, his friend who unknown to him has been stealing building materials from the house, told him to come and see something over there. He innocently followed him to the building at that night and that was how they walked into securities securing the house from criminals. They were caught and his guilty friend escaped till today. This man till today has been in prison since last year awaiting trials of the crimes he did not commit. All this happened to him as a result of not hearing his wife's words to stop taking walks around the entire community at night. This is where his deaf ears left him. Too many lessons to learn from that story. He has since last year November not seen his kids and his wife. Leaving the woman crying"Come back my husband" come back home for the kids and I, it is so unfortunate that he spent his Christmas and new year in the prison while his Judas Iscariot friend is living happily with his family; that if he is married. There is indeed life in the ears!

In so many cases have men fall a victim of night movement. If not a crime they did not commit, it will be assault from somewhere else.

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To all married men of the world, your family needs you to spend all your free time with them. That is a good example of parenthood and a teaching for your kids because children sees and copy some mistakes parents do.

Come back our husbands!!

Thanks for reading and have a beautiful month of April....@Gianna-B, 2022 and all rights reserved.

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