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Ten years experience needed!!!!

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What comes to your mind seeing the title "Ten years experience needed"?

The first thing I would think of is a job, probably someone with deep experience in a particular field is needed to occupy a position in an organization but for this article, it is the other way round.

My funny thoughts

When I was younger, the local Tv stations do advertise different job vacancies and the least experience they required for the jobs was 5 years. I didn't understand what it meant until I became a teenager, I put the piece together and always wonder how it would be possible for fresh graduates to get employment when every job required at least 5 years of experience.

Keeping the idea of no experience - no job in mind scares me a lot because it has always been my dream to start a good job immediately after my higher institution, little did I know that it wasn't about how much work experience you have but how long you have stayed at home without employment.

The idea is a silly one but I think the employers believe that people who have stayed longer at home would value the job more than fresh graduates.

This article has nothing to do with getting a job. Today, I got one of the biggest shocks of my life seeing someone bringing the issues of experience into relationship matters.

Who on earth does that?

Earlier this week I wrote about the "relationship manual" based on a true story of a girl who blocked her lover because of a canceled date, I thought I have seen it all but I was wrong.


A lady seeks my advice on a particular issue yesterday and I was wowed. Her friend had so many issues with her previous relationship and she chooses to stay single just to prevent herself from continuous heart breaks.

Six months ago, she told her friend she was tired of staying single and she wished to have a man that was ready to settle down with her.

The lady narrating the story took things seriously and she started observing her male friends so that she can link her friend with the serious males who also want a relationship. There was no sign of any guy so she stepped up her game and started posting her friend's pictures on her timeline if it would work.

It did, a young guy found her attractive and he asked about her. She immediately linked them up since she knew the guy to be a devoted person to his religion, calm, handsome, lovely and he has a good job.

What else does she need???

The guy started calling and texting her but he kept updating their friend who linked them together.

In the guy's claim, he said the girl is always rude and harsh on him during a phone conversation but he didn't give up. He arranged for a date and she turned up but it seems like she came for the food and drinks because she didn't allow any reasonable discussion to hold.

The guy was losing interest already but the matchmaker kept encouraging him because she might be testing him or something. She contacted the girl and spoke to her to change how she is treating the guy, she promised to change.

The guy decided to visit her on a weekend since she wasn't willing to come over to his place. She asked what he wanted her to offer him and he said anything, she went out to get two bottles of hot alcoholic drinks.

She offered him one and she took one, the guy was still trying to explain to her that he doesn't take alcohol and she was halfway gone with her drink. He was shocked and just dropped the bottle, after drinking she took her bible and started reading it without giving the guy any attention.

He tried to start a conversation but she was reluctant to engage with him, he took his leave since he wasn't welcome.

He called their matchmaker to let her know that he is not interested anymore, she got angry and went to visit her friend just to know why she didn't give the guy a chance since he was serious about settling down.

To her surprise, the lady's reason for not giving the guy attention was a silly one.

She said that the guy is young and doesn't have a relationship experience that is enough for him to take good care of her. She further explained that men with 10 years of relationships experience and above are good at taking care of ladies, she used her sister as an example because she married someone who is older and she is happily married.

I was surprised as well because it was the first time I would be hearing that someone needs a man with 10 years of experience in a relationship before she can pay attention to him.

She is just 25 and the guy is 27, she knew the guy's first relationship was at 21. In that six years, the guy has only been in a relationship for four years because he was busy building his career.

To cut the story short, he got married four months after he stopped contacting the girl. He met a serious girl and didn't waste time, the former girl didn't know he was rich because he never mentioned or flaunt his wealth to her.


I said in an article that works for A might not for B, living our life based on what others are doing to their lives is a wrong idea.

Experience shouldn't be a criterion for choosing a lover because if everyone does that, a lot of people would remain single forever. The girl in the story was been childish and greedy for treating the guy that way and I think she just lost someone who could have been her dream man because she didn't know he is financially okay and if she knew, it would have been her only reason to stay in the relationship.


Relationship is more than just the material things involved, it would be a waste of time emphasizing that because a lot of people have heard this a hundred times and they still just go for a relationship that would have only material things to offer them.

The perfect relationships we see out there have their flaws so why copy them when you can build your own from the scratch? Now, another guy wants to meet the same girl and the matchmaker seek advice if she should carry on with the matchmaking.

What would you advise her to do?

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I do not know what to advise the girl actually. It seemed that the boy was decent. Experience does not matter and it is the heart that counts.

My advice to the guy is to give up on the girl. Since the girl had been showing signs of not being interested in him, why continue to make himself unhappy to try to continue to date with her.

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1 month ago

Hahaha... This is not what should be neglected though, experience matters a lot but how did she know that the guy has no experience even without giving him the chance to explain himself.

I think they should at least become friends at first. Me too I need a girl of 2 years experience in relationships..lol

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1 month ago

What if the guy wants an experienced girl too? I wonder what would be her reply.

Regarding employment, it's the same here. Also, jobs now require degree holders when in fact the job doesn't need one to be a degree holder to do the job. They are still trained anyway so why the need for a degree holder?

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1 month ago

I was thinking in my mind "If i were near that dude, I would ask him to run and never look back" .. Relationships are about compromises, we learn as time passes and as time grows..

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1 month ago

You are right. No one is perfect in a relationship, we grow as we learn from our mistakes.

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1 month ago

I also found it weird while I was growing up especially on OGTV where they showed job vacancies but with 5 to 10 years experience. How will young graduates get jobs then..? The criteria for relationships that ladies in our country set is really weird. Which is why I don't see myself dating any Nigerian lady. I'd rather wait till I travel out of the country.

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1 month ago

Are you serious about not getting married to a Nigerian? I better be your friend so that you can take me out of the country so I can marry a foreigner as well.

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1 month ago

Hahaha...I got loads of Japanese friends already...that's the secret plan bring a Japanese lady home when I'm coming back. It will surprise everybody.

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1 month ago

I wonder the type of man that will marry her with this attitude. Looking after material things, hmm. Did she know what her sister had to sacrifice before their marriage could work out. I pity her, I hope she doesn't get old before getting married

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1 month ago

She thought relationship is a child's play, she is not ready to make the sacrifice to have a happy relationship.

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1 month ago

I will advise her to keep looking for the 10years experience maybe by the time she's 50years of age she will see Sometimes I don't know what is wrong with some ladies out there They always want to eat their cake and still have it at the same time

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1 month ago

She wants to make hay while the sun is gone, it might be too late for her when she realise her mistake.

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1 month ago

Am sorry for her anyways

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1 month ago

Relationship, doesn't required experience, we both learn as we get along everyday, so why we need to choose for a guy with experience, if it will hurt you intentionally wether he have experience or no he will hurt you, its simple as that

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1 month ago

Having 100 years of experience doesn't stop someone from hurting you. As long as love exists, experience is useless.

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1 month ago

This one mad gan oo 😅😅😅 So they don't look for Experience in job again, na relationship matter 🤣🤣 I can't stop laughing. This is total bullshit mehn. She isn't ready to be in a relationship and may I say that she is the one who is young and do not have any experience. Abeg, do matchmake for me oo I don't want Experience 🤣🤣🤣

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1 month ago

She is still on the streets, she would have jumped on the guy if she knew how rich he was but I am glad the glad didn't reveal his worth.

The guy would have been broken hearted later in the relationship because she will eventually break his heart.

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1 month ago

Exactly. The guy wise jare

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