Talking about relationships is not really my thing because I have had more unlucky moments than lucky moments in relationships, there are times I have ideas but I don't have the experience to back them up so I just relax and learn from the relationship doctor himself @Olasquare
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Relationships don't seem to be what they use to be anymore or I am probably the one seeing things from the wrong angle because a lot of us now practice the opposite of what we preach.
As guys, we brag about feelings and true love whereas we are only interested in the colors, the big bum, sexy shape, and others. Once we have reached the bottom of the pot, we take our leave.
It is the same thing for females, we all have one or two reasons going into a relationship and these reasons are so huge that love does not even have a chance to exist but we play along like we are truly in love. We bring too much greed, selfishness, and expectations that end up killing any sort of feelings that might have even existed from the onset.
A friend of mine usually says love can't be completely understood and you will keep learning about love till death comes, I usually thought he was exaggerating but I see things from his perspectives because the moment you think you know it all, new things will begin to emerge.
Should we really let love lead?
I would be supporting and opposing this question, I want everyone to see things from both angles.
It is complicated and I will let the experienced people shed more light on this. Gone are the days when love was blind, it sees clearly now and would avoid anything that would cause harm to it.
Allowing love lead shouldn't be a problem but doing it with our eyes closed can make things end in a pit, it requires the use of our brains as well because giving love total control could make you commit blunders that would be irreversible but it worked for some people who allowed love to lead in their relationships.
A long time ago, I read the story of a couple who couldn't bear a child. The event happened a long time before the year 2000, this couple did everything possible but couldn't have a child.
Despite the advice from people telling them to separate and find new lovers, they didn't listen. It got to a stage, they sold everything they had and went abroad because they wanted to stay away from pressure and live happily even without a child.
Their families later discovered that they died without conceiving and yet they were happy.
The couple believed in love only and were able to overlook other things that were expected of them. While some see kids as compulsory, it isn't to some people because they just want to be happy with their partner regardless of what happens during their love journey.
Today, three years after marriage would warrant one of the lovers taking a wrong step.
I have read stories of people loving blindly and they lost an important part of their lives while some even lost their lives as well.
I believe in love, I know its importance in every relationship but what is meant to bring happiness and as well bring sadness. Imagine if Adam didn't allow love, the world might not be as terrible as it is today.
Just like the world is changing, the way love is been handled changes as well. Today we see several results of infidelity, the one that trended recently was DNA exposing children's paternity.
Why would I need to doubt someone to who I am married? It seems people now adding one plus one to get a perfect relationship.
There is this rich lover, there is another who is caring, one is good in bed, and combining the whole three would just make life perfect.
Common mistakes we make in a relationship:
Walking in the part of others love life
We all have different life which includes our love life as well, we reason and understand things differently. What worked in your relationship might not work in mine so setting the standards like someone else relationship might make things end badly.
It is best to understand the strength and capabilities of our love life, which would help us act accordingly. It would help us avoid unnecessary drama and issues in relationships.
Avoid too many expectations from your lover.
Having too many expectations in relationships can be very disastrous, it kills feelings faster.
This expectation thing comes with selfishness because I don't see any reason why a person should place too many expectations on the other person in a relationship when you know that they can't do it.
When these expectations aren't met, feelings die and it is over.
Trust but don't be a fool
I have seen people who claim to trust but they are doing it wrongly, trust doesn't prevent you from speaking, it doesn't stop you from questioning and correcting your lover when you notice anything mischievous.
I would hear your honest view about the topic, I am sorry I haven't been able to engage in lots of articles today because I was really busy, and sleeping at the farm tonight would keep me awake so I will have enough time to read as many post and comment.
Thanks for understanding.
Love and attraction are two different things but people don't try to differentiate between both, which can lead them to end up their relationship as soon as the attraction fade out. But true love is all about accepting each other in any way and try to be loyal with your partner. The love of couple was pure and endless, and they were aware about true meaning of love.Thats why they decided to live together.