Once is not enough...

The Valentine's hype is everywhere and even the little kids are talking about it, my little ten-year-old boy told me he is wearing red and white to school tomorrow. I pretended not to understand why and he confidently reminded me that tomorrow is Valentine and the dress code is red and white, I love the idea of schools making kids understand that Valentine is not just time for couples because they can spread/share love among their friends in school, church, and the family.

I guess my generation misunderstood the purpose of Valentine and that's why we experience lots of atrocities in some parts of the world on just that day, it might be different if we were also taught about it when we were in junior school.

My first valentine's experience.

I remembered my first experience regarding Valentine, it wasn't my idea because I wasn't one of the guys who had time for girls in school. It made me lose many opportunities with those girls then, my studies were the only priority.

I had this girl who was crushing on me, she was the most intelligent in class and she acts like a nerd. She doesn't keep friends she doesn't even interact with other students but she was very fond of me. In 2007, she got me a nice T-shirt but I gave it out and it made her dislike me.

We later sorted things out after secondary school but it was too late because I eventually shoot my shot and missed.

Let's put the story aside, the purpose of the article is to make everyone understand that Valentine's day is not enough to express love to others even though we choose it to be lover's day.

I want to agree with everyone that it is a lover's day but why are we obsessed with the idea of just celebrating our lovers just once a year?

My WhatsApp status has been flooded with pictures about Valentine and it got me wondering why it is happening because it is not always nice like that every day, I have few people who post pictures of their lovers from time to time and I admire them a lot. Don't get me wrong about the fact that I admire people who share images of their love lives but that still doesn't guarantee love or does it?

Expressing love shouldn't be a once-in-a-year thing, it should be done from time to time because it helps strengthen the bonds in relationships. You are not into a relationship if you choose to express your love just once in a year and expressing love isn't the task for a particular gender because there are people who believe that only a particular gender should be pampered or shown love in relationships, we are all entitled to care and affection.

What would be your response if I asked you when last did you make your lover feel special and how? If sex is the only thing you can point out then I fear what kind of lover you are. There are numerous ways to express one's love in a relationship, let's briefly talk about them.

√Sending messages: This is one act I am guilty of as well, I do send love messages a lot but I am not really into it like I use to do before. I write my messages myself so whenever I am stressed, I become less romantic but notwithstanding, I still find time to compose something sweet.

Sending messages to make your lover know how much they mean to you is good and one of the cheapest ways of expressing your feelings.

√Buying gifts: Should I say this is the common one? Almost everyone in the relationship does this right?

Did I hear someone say No? What do you mean by some ladies don't want to spend their money on their lovers? I don't know about that because my fiancee gets me something almost every month, it doesn't have to be huge or something that would tear your purse. The feelings attached are what matters, a simple pack of chocolate can do the magic.

Buying gifts for your lover is a good thing and we must learn to appreciate whatever it is as the receiver.

√Supporting each other: Support doesn't have to be only financial help, there is numerous way we can support our spouse.

We just to figure out what kind of help they need and fill in the space for them.

√Surprises: Who doesn't love surprises? I do and it is one of the ways to make your lover happy, plan simple surprises when you can do so.

It could be gifts/outings so just do it without them knowing and feel the happiness they feel as well.

√Go outing and vacations:

This doesn't happen often because it cost a lot sometimes but doing it once in a while would be great, nothing is impossible when we work towards making it a reality.

Regardless of what your plans are for tomorrow because I will be sleeping on my bed waiting to be pampered all day, remember to spread happiness and love not just to your lover.

The world is going through a lot and a little act of love might be all somebody out there need to stay alive, sane, happy and others so don't hesitate to spread that love in you into the heart of many.

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