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I couldn't complete the article I intended to post initially because I lost concentration while watching football since my favorite league has resumed, I enjoyed today's game but felt bad the moment I knew that my TV provider won't be showing the match I wanted to see. I didn't plan to watch the match outdoor so I just checked the match updates on my phone while writing this article.

Since writing this article wasn't planned, I will love to share an experience I had when I was in junior secondary school. The lesson I learned from this experience has been part of the things I use as a guide as I journey through life, it baffles me how I didn't let go of the memory of what happened in 2004. Unfortunately, the person who taught me the lesson is late and his death made me wept so badly because he was a teacher every student needed to have while growing.

He was my Business studies teacher and a very good one. Despite his impact on the students he has taught, only a few loved him because he was very disciplined and strict. He always bombarded us with so many assignments that don't have to do with his subject, he soaks us in studies that we could barely play after school hours. It was a bad thing to some parents whose kids weren't able to help them at home but it was a wonderful and good thing to my mother who doesn't like to see me play football around the street.

My mom liked the teacher a lot and she handed me over to him to always check me academically, I wasn't happy about it because I knew he wouldn't give me a breathing space in the school.

On this fateful day, we had his subject as usual but it was quite different because he decided to merge two classes which was the first time he was doing that with the class. What we treated that day was "CASH BOOK", the types and some terms used when updating a cash book and at the end of the class, he asked if we all understood and we claimed we did.

It was time for question and answer, I hated that moment because I believed he always sees me as a target due to the relationship between us. He made an illustration and asked if it was going to fall into the Credit or Debit column, my mind went blank immediately and was lost in thought.

Why would he ask such a question on the first day of treating the topic from us, I came back to life when he called my name only to discover that half of the class has answered the question. I chose the credit column and he told me to stay at one corner of the class away from the other students, it was then I discovered that half of the class had chosen the debit column.

He continued asking the same question from other students and they all went for the debit column, he turned to me after the last student answered the question. The angry expression on his face scared me and to make my condition worse, he asked again.

Why did you choose Credit?

I started stammering and told him it was a mistake, I changed my answer to debit. He told the class to clap for me because I switch my answer and I was surprised because I am the only person who was applauded, he told everyone to go and sit except me.

I was smiling but didn't know that I was about to be embarrassed. He then took a cane and told me to stretch my hand, I was surprised because I didn't know what I did wrong. He dealt with me badly and I wept bitterly because I felt like he was only taking advantage of what my mom told him. He asked if I knew why he punished me and I answered reluctantly, he further explained why he dealt with me that much.

He said my initial answer was right and he flogged me because I followed the crowd. He emphasized on us believing in ourselves and made it clear that I took the whole class punishment because of what I did. I felt bad and took the lesson to my heart.

There are a lot of times we make the same mistake of not trusting our decisions and end up making wrong choices, trusting ourselves should be something we do always.

I am not saying others' opinions or thoughts are always wrong but in situations where you are sure what you are doing, don't follow the crowd. There are situations where you need to stand on what you know, I know it is difficult to be different but it can be very rewarding in some situations.

I have since then learned my lessons and stopped following the crowd because if it doesn't even work for me naturally.

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well I think he was the best teacher of your life, because due to him , you learnt alot and you will be learning. Mistakes are the part of our life and we do learn by our mistakes. WE always should chose the right pathway for us...

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3 months ago

I felt it was wrong to make mistakes then but the lesson made me understood that mistakes are part of out lives as well.

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3 months ago

when there arnt right people in the life, people keep understanding the same

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3 months ago

I always hate strict teachers, I tremble with fear when facing them especially when were in class but I despise the most are teachers who don't have compassion and care to his or her students.

I believe those teacher who are very strict are those who really are concerned because it means they gave you attention and supervise you to become a develop person than those who don't even mind about his/her student (many teachers are like this and just ended up making excuses saying they fear they might be accuse of child abuse if they try to discipline a kid)

And I also agree to you that we sometimes need to be confident if we knew something right instead of going to wrong just because the majority have chosen it.

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3 months ago

That is why in every decision we had, we must stand for it. Its okay even if its wrong or right. Because if wrong there we can correct or learn our mistake. And the best thing is that if we answered it with our own desired we dont regret it at the end.

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3 months ago

Making wrong decisions doesn't make us the worse human in the world, we are bound to make mistakes and learn from them. I love you opinion

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3 months ago

Thank you. I Love your response too :-)

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3 months ago

I do mistake by asking peoples to tell me if i should do or not most of time just because of them i made mistakes and from when i started taking decision by my own i started learning where i need more focus and you're right we should not follow crowd!!

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3 months ago

You know yourself better and you know what is best for you. Living by others decisions for themselves might make us end at an unfavourable destination in life.

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3 months ago

Kudos to that teacher.. He may be strict but his teaching way is great.. And there are really times that we doubt ourselves and follow the crowd.. Then regrets will happen later... Sometimes we have to follow what our mind and heart are telling us coz they speak real...

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3 months ago

I learned my lessons and it really helped during my tertiary education. We have this statistics lecturer that gives us point during classes when you answer questions in his class.

Because I learned to stand for my decision, I do get about 20 points before tests or exams. Trusting one instinct is very good but it is too bad lots of us don't trust what we know and what we can do

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3 months ago

He made you to learn the hard way but I must say he was a good teacher... May his soul continue to rest on in the Lord.

Most times we end up making silly mistakes that will cost us so much just because we followed the crowd. A lesson well learnt.

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3 months ago

That's true, isn't it funny when we choose to follow the people who aren't sure either?

Thank for the prayers.

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3 months ago

You're teacher is correct, don't let peers affects your decision, when you think of something, do it and made it yourself, don't let them say what you, and what you don't need to do. I remember when I was in highschool, whenever I made an answer and double think I didn't follow my second instinct but my first ahahahhs

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3 months ago

I am very unlikely with going with the crowd because it mostly doesn't end well for me. It is not like I am perfect or something but I am always very careful when doing my thing and it is better than just following people who are doing thing based on their idea, exposure and knowledge.

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3 months ago

The season start in a very good way for my darling team duo the match distracted me just like you, but I will adjust myself against subsequent once that are coming up. You teacher flog you so you won't repeat such next time and I believe you never made such mistakes again

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3 months ago

Which football team do you support? You flogging kids and punishment is the best way teacher discipline kids then.

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3 months ago

I dont believe the teacher should have taught you a lesson of self dependence and believing in yourself by flogging you. I consider it as abuse because you simply weren't sure if your answer and you cant inspire confidence in a child by flogging, you're only creating fear. Our educational system in Africa believes flogging and inflicting pain is the heat way to encourage students. Well, I completely disagree. Sometimes a simple conversation would help. I wonder where your teacher is today. He's probably living a failed life and a life of regret.

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3 months ago

Normally, we supposed to believe on ourselves instead of depending on people. You did not do so well by running away from the initial but correct answer

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3 months ago

I was sure initially but got scared because everyone chooses the other answer, I didn't know that they were just choosing the answer because their friends did too.

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3 months ago