Jealousy in Relationships

For so long have I always imagined jealousy among partners in relationships. Even among spouses, between husbands and their wives, jealousy is often seen in many homes through interactions with each other. Jealousy may be caused by many things, such as feeling of low self esteem or feeling of being undervalued among other factors. Nevertheless, jealousy may be toxic and harmful to a relationship. Some people strongly believed that jealousy in itself is not a bad thing because it shows the level of love and affection one has for a partner. However, being overly jealous of the other partner in a relationship can have many negative implications for both partners.

Looking at it in a more general way, getting jealous in a relationship might actually be a good sign of a loving relationship or relationship based on love. It's difficult to get jealous of your partner without loving them, but unnecessary jealousy may be disastrous. When people get slightly jealous over their partner, it may show a sign of true and genuine love.

People may be jealous of many things over their partner, some may be jealous or feel jealousy once they see their partner hugging other person. It may even spring out in many other ways. Some male partners get jealous when they see other males getting around with their partners especially in a way they don't like.

Some get jealous if other people just hold their partner's hands romantically. Jealousy is in many different forms and may be shown in many different ways.

What caused Jealousy in relationships? It's difficult to list a one-for-all cause of jealousy in relationships but some of the causes of jealousy may include;

1. LACK OF TRUST.

Some people get unnecessary jealousy because they couldn't trust their partner. Some have the thought that their partner could do something to betray their trust hence they get jealous of every moment that may seemed harmful to the trust between them. For a relationship to work out or even marriages, trust has to be built. Without trust a relationship cannot work or be fun. Once there is lack of trust in a relationship. People panic and get jealous of their partner unnecessarily.

Some husbands get jealous once their wives go out of the house or when an old friend meet up on the road and greet their wives. Because of lack of trust, many husbands may start to become suspicious and jealous of their partner over exchanged greetings.

Once the trust is well established in a relationship, jealousy is always absent because each partner have trust in each other. In such a way, nobody have to develop an unstable mind over the other person.

2. LOW SELF ESTEEM.

When one of the partner feel like self esteem or feel being unworthy of a relationship, jealousy may creep in at any slightest opportunity. If you don't feel that your partner loved you enough or feel that you are less attractive to him or her, jealousy may show itself in such relationship. Such partner may start feeling insecure with the other. Jealousy may exhibit or show anger, resentment and even hatred, that's why it's very toxic to harbor jealousy in one's mind.

People that exhibit jealousy do themselves a great harm mentally and psychologically too. Jealousy won't give you a peace of mind in your relationship if you are by chance a jealous person. Some people have resorted to being a criminal because of the fact that they couldn't control their jealousy.

Some can't just imagine another person near their partner, they may resort to violence mere seeing other person with their wives or husbands.

Jealousy is like a rage that can consume the harborer. Are you a jealous one? You have to be able to control your jealousy. It's advisable not to be in a relationship with who you can't trust rather than being in a relationship with such person and be having doubts. Relationships works better when the partners deal with a straight mind and trust.

It is also important to avoid things that could make your partner to be jealous of you. Many people are fond of making their partners to be jealous of them intentionally. Don't punish your partner because you wanted to prove their love.