The Blaming Game
AUTHOR: OMOJUWA FREEDOM
DATE: THURSDAY MARCH 10THWhat do you do when you're confronted with a difficulty, a dilemma, or a set of unknown circumstances? ..... Do you choose to lay blame on someone? ...Do you choose to place responsibility on your coworkers? ...Do you choose to place the blame on your accomplice? Do you think you're to be blamed? Do you think it's because of the economic state? ..... Do you hold God responsible for some of your struggles?
Sometimes in life we always seems to blame everyone for our problems but never for once blame ourselves, rather looking for someone to blame, the most empowering thing you can do in most cases is to take responsibility for your problems and take the right decisions and steps to resolve them gradually even if they can't be resolved at once.
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Blaming others never appears to be working because, if you keep blaming others for your faults, you will lose your prestige, stance, relevance, competence status and efficiency in comparison to others who recognize they are the source of their own failures and they thrive to find solution to it. sometimes you won't acknowledge that you have lost your influence around people, all of a sudden you will discover that people are no longer paying attention to you or gradually not making use of what you tell them to do.
We must understand that "blaming is highly infectious," and that being exposed to people who constantly blame others for their personal shortcomings is enough to cause others to chastise others for wholly unrelated screw ups. This is most typical when a person is most inclined to blame someone lower in the prestigious position because they have been blamed by someone significantly greater in the hierarchy.
Ethical decision making includes never criticising others for things you're accountable for, such as your feelings or lifestyle choices, and managing yourself not to become involved in conflicts that are beyond of your jurisdiction, such as other people's insecurities, acts, and unpleasant conduct.
Why do we refuse to live up to this level of emotional stability? ...and why do we pass the buck to others? When is not even the ideal thing to do at that situation because you might be hurting someone else and we aren't aware of what he/she is going through and we just decide to pour out our blame on them ......... Blame and humiliation are frequently linked; for example in the bible the story of Adam and eve, when God faced Adam and Eve for their transgression, they chastised everyone but not themselves because they were humiliated.
The blaming game is an ineffective technique of dealing with shame, disappointment, panic, incapability, difficulty, insufficiency, defeat and failure . Rather than condemning and shaming ourselves, we should confront the situation, realize our journey, and ask God what he wants us to do thereafter. When something goes horribly wrong and we feel intimidated, threatened, harassed, violated, offended, pressured, it's normal to try to defend ourselves against the consequences. We end up blaming others and sometimes we want to isolate ourselves from the difficulties.
Neglecting to admit our faults or continuing to avoid them will only compound our problems in the long term. Transitioning responsibility will not get you to achieve the deadline and will never solve the problem that is causing the backlog.
Blaming someone else for your mistakes won't help you either so it's better to face your mistakes and never be ashamed of it because if you avoid it now, you will encounter it all at some point in your life, NEVER TRY PLAYING THE BLAMING GAME.
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I used to be like this before but later on I noticed that there is an impact to my personality and practice not to be like this again. It will ruin our friendship to others and also to ourselves.