Your Healing is Your Responsibility

In this world full of pain, cruelty, and darkness, let's always try our very best to seek the light and happiness that we deserve.

I think all of us experienced hurt and pain, through words, actions, or feelings that left a deep scar in our hearts. We can't control or avoid our brokenness because it's a normal feeling if someone hurts us. It's not our choice to get hurt. Who wants pain? No one wants to get hurt. People can hurt us intentionally or not and we can't do anything about it. Our brokenness is not our choice but the healing part is.

It's all starts with us. I know someone who's been hurt for a long time and it seems like she doesn't want to separate from pain. Masochist? When we experience heartbreak, we tend to think that the only answer to heal and be okay again is the person who hurt us. Nah.. we can't force someone to stay if they don't want to stay, We can't force someone to love us back if we don't have that special space in their heart. We can't force someone to say sorry and be responsible for the pain that they give. We can't ask people to heal us and stop the bleeding. They can't heal us. The only responsible for our healing is ourselves with the help of the Lord of course. No matter how strong we are, believe me, we can't heal without His guidance. He's the most powerful and we're only a human.

Sometimes because we want other results, it's hard for us to accept the situation and it kills us even more. We can't force people to heal us, we can't convince them to kiss away our brokenness. We can't force them to apologize for all the mess they did to our lives. We can't force them to feel the trauma that they created within us. It's the battle within ourselves, how we cope up with all of the pain, anger, and madness.

We can't stay in the same place, damaged and wounded, we are not a tree. We can move, start to move. It's okay to be sad, our emotions are valid. But we shouldn't stay too long. Life is beautiful, don't live in the darkness. Look for the light, make some effort to heal coz at the end of the day, healing is our choice.

Stop faking strength. It's okay to admit that you're broken. Be honest with what's really going on and how broken you really are. You can only be whole again when you start to heal. It's an important process, don't skip it. Give yourself time and space needed, no matter how slow.. it still progress. It's not the end of life, it's just a phase that we need to experience for us to grow and learn. Forgive those people who have hurt you even if they're not sorry. Your forgiveness is for your own peace of mind.

I hope that you choose to heal to become whole again. Goodnight.

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