We are all great writers, aren't we? We possess excellent penmanship and skills that we hold in high esteem. And yet, that does not always prevent us from being jealous of fellow writers. Jealousy is a natural reaction to human emotions, although not to the best of our ability. We can try to learn to control it and to get rid of those bad thoughts. However, we cannot always prevent this devouring beast from entering our minds.
Envy is a negative feeling that consumes time and energy. I see the effects of jealousy flying around here, and I think it's high time I address it. I'm sure you've seen it too. Jealousy is deadly cancer that if not getting rid of in time, can destroy a person.
Jealousy is a common feeling. Everyone experiences jealousy at some point in his or her life. But problems can arise when jealousy shifts from healthy emotions to unhealthy and irrational ones.
Jealousy is a problem that can not be denied in this world, and it's most prevalent among co-workers. Everyone has an amount of jealousy in them, and it can strengthen a people working habits and relationships in a group. However, excessive jealousy can be frustrating and intimidating, especially because it can lead to harmful behaviors such as hatred, name-calling, condemning others' efforts, violence, and abuse.
There is no reason to believe that envy will develop without regard for it. Envy is not a feeling that can be eradicated by wishful thinking. It goes deep into one's heart and has deep roots, and it takes awareness and effort to overcome these feelings.
Two types of jealousy
Jealousy is sometimes natural, but if it is strong or irrational, it can seriously damage a working environment. Being able to distinguish between healthy jealousy and unhealthy jealousy is essential to the success of your work as a writer.
Common jealousy
In a working environment where jealousy is mild and controllable, it reminds individuals not to underestimate each other. Jealousy can also be a source of motivation for individuals to appreciate and work hard to make sure that they too achieve something significant.
Jealousy can also intensify friendship, making people work together in a supportive manner. In small, manageable doses, jealousy can have a powerful effect on bringing the best out of someone.
Unhealthy jealousy
When jealousy is rampant or irrational, the story is very different.
Unreasonable or excessive jealousy is often a warning sign that you are failing. Eventually, jealous individuals become increasingly frustrated with their feelings and lack confidence in their ability to compete fairly with others. Unhealthy jealousy is based largely on fear of failure and anxiety over expectations.
Causes of jealousy
When confronted with a situation that can provoke envy, the person who struggles with these feelings may react with fear, anger, sadness, anxiety, doubts, pain, and humiliation. They can also often feel suspicious or threatened, or they may struggle with a sense of failure. Jealousy can occur for several reasons, including:
Lack of self-confidence or negative self-image
Fear of losing out.
You feel you have given enough to deserve good pay.
Having the opposite idea of the success factors.
Unreasonable expectations of attention.
Unreasonable expectations of reward.
Effects of jealousy
Jealousy is a normal emotion. Everyone experiences jealousy at some point in their lives. But problems can arise when jealousy moves from a healthy emotion to an unhealthy and irrational one.
Ultimately, envy can lead to frustration and self-defense. It can also damage confidence at work and lead to many conflicts, especially if the jealous person feels he or she is not going a fear share treatment.
Jealous people sometimes struggle to maintain balance and can lose their sleep because of another man's success. Their constant anger and frustration can also lead to the end of working together with others, especially if they abuse them and do not healthily address their jealousy
How to deal with jealousy
If you experience jealousy towards your fellow because of their success, it is important to deal with it before it gets out of hand. Instead of attacking or pouring out your resentments to another fellow, you can ask for help and try to know what they did differently to achieve the success they have.
Get over it.
As a strong and great writer, you have all the tools you have to simply move on and focus on being what you want to be. Don't spend your time and ey on what others do, get over it and keep on succeeding.
Stop comparison
Keep your goals centered on the inside. What you accomplish or fail to do has nothing to do with what someone else is doing or is or not doing. If you constantly measure your happiness or measure your success by comparing yourself to other writers, you will always be disappointed. Always have this behind your mind, "there is always someone better than you." so stop looking at other people's successes and focus on your goals and achievements.
Don't be an opposition, show support
Choose to be happy and supportive when other writers receive a raise or celebrate their achievements. Instead of being jealous, be kind and honest about your success. After all, if you had been in their place, you would have hoped for support and friendship, not resentment, anger, or jealousy. Taking a high road will help you feel better about yourself and you will recover faster in any moments of jealousy.
Redirect emotion.
Here is the big deal. When jealousy stared at your face directly, convey your emotional response to positive actions. Instead of letting someone else's success get you down, use it to challenge yourself and encourage yourself to improve, work harder and light the fire of motivation within.
Show respect, and celebrate with others.
The more you show respect to your fellow writers and share in their joyful moments the more magic happens. The positive energy exerts all the negative energy and you will be happy with how things are going with you.
Final thought
The best time for us to kill jealousy before you kill us all and send us to parking from this place is now. If we continue to fight and attacking each other for the sake of one or more people who earn more than us, instead of felicitating with them and letting the good positive energy spread around us, we may find ourselves in a pitiable state.
If there is anything else you think should be added to this post, feel free to leave it in the comments box for me to add.
Rather than being jealous of others, it's better to see them as a source of motivation.
It's normal to want the same blessing others are receiving or even more, infact it's possible to get envious of them. But one shouldn't allow the feeling to stay too long. It will lead to jealousy and then hatred