The judge

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The least amount of judging we can do, the better off we are. Yet we often judge others, and don’t realize it. Regardless of the reason, but mostly because we don’t know their true story, we don’t have a right to judge anyone. We judge each other, because it feels good to make a judgement. Most of the time we feel like we have the right to judge, because someone is doing something that we find offensive.

People hardly realize their own mistakes; instead they strive to point out someone else’s.

I have used this saying on a number of people when they were trying to point out my mistakes. But when you look back at it, you'd realize that you must have done it as well. And that is when you'll realize that you were also involved in the same thing.

When people make a mistake most people try to cover it up or blame it on someone else. Most never face the fact that they have made a mistake and they become defensive when someone calls them on it. I had to choose whether to admit that I made a mistake or blame it on others. It was harder to admit to my mistakes but it is something I learned to do. Other people would find it easier to blame the mistake on someone else but by blaming another person for the mistake you are actually putting yourself in a worse position; if you were at fault then you are admitting that you did something wrong, but if you were innocent then you will be seen as a person who creates problems for others and you will lose your credibility in the long run. You cannot win for losing when you blame others for your mistakes.

When confronted with a mistake, most people go into denial or deflect the blame onto someone else. The only thing you can do is own up to it and make changes to not make the same mistake again.

In the face of offensive remarks, crude behaviors, or aggressive actions, you remain calm because they no longer trigger a sense of anger or outrage. Rather than silently berating others, you openly acknowledge that everyone has unconscious thoughts and feelings, and then you ask yourself why this person is behaving this way.

Taking responsibility for your own actions rather than blaming others for theirs allows your psychological defences to come down and your awareness to expand. You respond to the circumstances around you in a quiet, peaceful manner rather than becoming caught up in the intensity of strong emotions. You become more involved with what is occurring in the moment than with the thoughts or emotions related to it.

We have a tendency to judge others, it's because we are inherently selfish. If we feel something bad, we assume that everyone around us feels the same way. This is why many people do not accept their own faults, it's as if they were carved in stone. Apparently, we all have our own personal flaws and problems, but we do not judge ourselves as others do. We think that our problems are so unique that no one can understand them. Pain makes us defensive and unpleasant, so we immediately start demonizing other people who evoke our suffering. The more we blame others for their failure and troubles, the more justified we feel in our own shortcomings and mistakes.

Rather than unconsciously delighting in the ego gratification of judging others, you let your reactions and judgments help you achieve greater self-understanding. By objectively observing how your mind responds to other people and their behavior, you free yourself from unnecessary suffering.

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