Can we get married and forget the ceremonies? Will our parent give us the go ahead?

Love is a beautiful thing and when you're in a relationship with some you love, it will look like the world revolves around you. 

Can we just get married after we ask for our parents' consent without the enormous celebration and gathering? 

This can happen with some control. Where the lady and the guy are in love in a far away place from their parents, once couples visit each parent and find it hard to visit again, they can just get married and start a new family. 

Oh I wish something like this could happen in my country. Everything has put a stop to this sweet imagination. I'm not against the party and the celebration. Ok, let me explain further. 

It is very rare to see a child that is tagged "Good, educated, well mannered, and so on" start a family without the white wedding.

What is a white wedding? 

A white wedding is the kind of wedding when the lady will be on white wedding dress and the husband will be in a black suit or any color. And they both get blessed in the church for the new journey that awaits them, full stop.

This is one of the best feelings and something that does make parents proud. Yeah yeah. Everyone will want to experience this but what actually prompts my imagination.

Inflation is so high. And in my culture and country the wedding ceremony is one of the biggest events that parents can showcase their well brought up kids. One thing about the wedding that baffles me is this.

A man that just started his life, I mean he just got a good paying job and was able to save up a lot to get an apartment, got himself a car and started saving to start up a family. I guess that's how it should be but instead he starts saving for marriage. He pays bride price and foots all the bills that come for a better wedding ceremony. 

After the wedding ceremony, it might be hard for him to pick up again but he will definitely do that. 

But can't that stage be avoided. I mean just get the parents around and some family members, if they have to go to court, fine by me. And after everything is done they can start a family and live fine. Do we really need to go through all the ceremonies?

What are the ceremonies I'm talking about in my culture?

We have the "Introduction". Here the both families will meet and come with each other's extended family and friends. There will be food and a little party.

Then we move to the " White Wedding" . This is mostly done in the church with hardly any food but won't  your guests be entertained. The newly wedded couple will have to get a hall that will convene the guests and there we move to the last.

The "Reception". The reception is where the real party is and no one will want to miss that party. There the couple will dance and play all sorts of games. 

All this costs a fortune and with the rate of hyperinflation, I salute those that are getting wedded and also building their own house because all these things are done by grace.

Now you understand why I say that in the topic. Can't we just do that?.

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