Life Problems

Life is hard sometimes. We express our non-acceptance and misunderstanding of this fact by whining and regretting, blaming, self-pity, more subtle or loud. These are the behaviors by which we express, among other things, our conviction that our difficulties are unique and belong to the category of those who should not be able to cope with anyone, and who have befallen us, our family, our loved ones… ? How did I deserve it?).

Life is miraculously woven from various experiences, events, relationships, feelings, beautiful and those that are not. How we deal with life now and the problems that are inevitable determines how we will live the rest of our lives. Try to think about whether you have ever learned something worthwhile without facing a problem, a difficulty, a challenge…

Something that “shook you out of your pants” made you step out of your comfort zone. Do you have a feeling that life is a constant series of problems? Do you want to complain about them or do you want to solve them?

Do you want to teach your children to complain or solve problems? Discipline is a fundamental tool we need. Without discipline we will not solve anything, with a little discipline we can solve some problems, with a lot of discipline we can solve most. The process of dealing with problems and solving them - is painful and demanding.

Problems, depending on their nature, have a number of intense feelings - frustration, sadness, grief, loneliness, guilt, regret, anger, fear, anxiety, worry, despair… These are unpleasant feelings, often just as painful or even more painful than physical pain. We call events problems precisely because of those feelings and pains they cause in us. Since life is woven, among other things, from a multitude of problems, it is almost always at least in some part difficult and painful, just as joyful and miraculous.

In the process of dealing with problems and solving them, life gains meaning, and we grow. It is our attitude towards the problem that makes the difference between success and failure. Problems bring our courage and wisdom to the forefront, encourage them and create them. Because of the problem we grow, mentally and spiritually.

If we want to encourage the growth of the human spirit, we must empower ourselves in constructive problem solving. We learn through the pain of facing problems and through solving them. Benjamin Franklin rightly said, "What hurts teaches." That is why wise people learn not to be afraid of problems, not to avoid them but to accept them. In fear of the pain that problems bring with them, almost all of us try to avoid them. We postpone dealing with them in the hope that they will disappear. We ignore them, we forget, we pretend they don't exist…

We take medications to make it easier to ignore them, we numb ourselves and suppress the pain and emotions that problems in us cause. We visit them. We sweep under the carpet… The tendency to avoid problems and emotional suffering is at the root of all human mental / mental illnesses and disorders. Since we all have this tendency, to a greater or lesser extent, we can say that most of us are mentally ill or that no one is completely mentally healthy. Carl Jung said, "Neurosis is always a substitute for true suffering."

Eventually again we are not spared suffering, and the neurosis itself becomes the biggest problem. In accordance with the learned way of functioning, even then we try to alleviate both suffering and pain, lowering neurosis after neurosis. Fortunately, some are encouraged and begin to deal with their own neuroses and begin - most often with the help of psychotherapy - to learn how to endure suffering and how to deal with problems.

When we avoid the suffering that comes from facing problems, we also avoid personal growth and development. That is why we do not grow in chronic mental illness, we stay in the same place. Without help, the human spirit can falter and wither. It is important to understand how important spiritual and mental health is and how to nurture it. A certain amount of pain is necessary and important. Problems should be faced, not avoided at all costs.

Discipline is our most important tool - with its adoption and internalization comes patience and other ways to help us (suffer) the pain caused by the problem and to successfully overcome it and to grow and develop, we become stronger.

What are the tools of the discipline that help us to deal with problems constructively? the most important are: procrastination, acceptance of responsibility, commitment to the truth, and maintaining balance.