Why Does The Umbilical Cord Of A Human Need To Be Cut Twice?

A mother always knows best, a mother that been carried you for a month and sheltered you for years. But the mere reality is that your mother needs to cut your second umbilical cord, which means she needs to let you go. She needs you to be out of the shelter she made. The first cord happened after your birth. You were still connected but needed to be cut for you to survive. The second one will happen at the time she needs to let you go, explore and make something new. The hardest part of mother thinking is the idea that you need to be out of her side, she might not yet be ready, but she must do it anyways.

My college time was the first time of being independent. It's a brave way where one day you will leave home and be just your own, that might be the idea behind, some are away for earlier. The first weeks or two are the hardest. You will meet different people, yet there were still some loneliness in our parents' hands and care, but the next thing is that it gets climatized. Somehow, we learn to embrace that reality, and we will leave them for something else.

I have been interested in learning new things in child psychology these past few days, and maybe I am now getting ready for my future, lol. Most psychology I read is all about the child and parent development. One of my favorite articles I read is written by Ma. Jocelyn Gaynes, a Filipina psychiatrist in Bacolod City. Explained the two umbilical cords.

When we were still in the mother's womb, the support of our life and how we get attached to our mother was the umbilical cord, where the nutrients and food come to us for us to develop and become the person we were to be.

Our mother fed us from the moment we were unseen until the day we left them for good—the painful process of motherhood.

Physical during birth and emotional during the teenage life of your child, where they were expecting to learn and live according to their will. Of course, when we are still babies, we know how-to talks independently, are curious about what we see, and try to ourselves. Come teenage years when we also began to discover more intense emotionally.

Note: The operative word is "guide" rather than "decide".

Cutting the second cord, the emotional umbilical was the most challenging part on the mother's side, and this was a task of thinking it was not the baby they owned anymore, it was not the child they knew that was sweet and willing to kiss them in public, it's not the same thing anymore. Emotionally developing more curiosity and going to the wilder pack than the childish one.

At teenage, we hide more secrets; some weren't openly issues to their parent. The reminder is to guide, not to decide.

Cutting the emotional umbilical meant letting go of the track they choose, the field of their interest, the sexuality of their child, the preference of their friends and partners, and many more. Guiding them and letting them access things will help them become more daily.

Guiding them in the way they will still be on the right track, and it might be hard for a mother to think of not deciding, for the parents' mind was focused on the idea that she wants nothing but good for his young's.

How do parents accept leaving their children to decide things for themselves?

"If you love someone, set him free"- Richard Bach.

On the parent side, it was painful to imagine things like a child would leave you, but somehow acceptance is the key, letting them be the child they wanted to be, be with people they might think they were comfortable with, and find peace for themselves.

As they were still young, learn to be with them and build a fruitful memory, for the reality will return, and they will leave you somehow.

The real challenge of becoming a parent starts when you need to leave them, and the fundamental role comes the day when you will realize they won't require you anymore. They can now go without you. So for the parent out there, enjoy every day as you hold your child's hands; someday, you will need to face to cut the second umbilical cord.

Thanks for reading…