Love standard: Professional boundaries when it comes to love.
When it comes to fairy tales, we hear a lot of poor girls and boys then some rich opposite fall in love with them, the plot is the girl or boy is poor and they struggle because of lifestyle and boundaries of life. But in very real life, does this happen? Yes, it is, but things are uncommon and rare.
I think I could tackle things that are offensive to some people, mind that’s this is thought. A random series of observations and words are heard. Just a day to day compliance in our life on this platform. Thanks for opening our minds.
The idea was hanging in my head last night. It's not intended to be a topic but I found myself focusing on a radio station where my father is listening before going to bed. I disagreed with the opinion of the host but I think I also agreed with some diversion.
Sounds confusing in the state where I am looking for more reasons why the anchor stated that ‘If you are a farmer boy don’t dream of having a wife that is doctor, or any high professional’.
I think I could offend some but just read the thought. I began to look out from what I observed from my past.
I grew up hearing the words, ‘Don’t rush the love, focus on your study for when you graduated and had a stable job. Girls will come near to you at first sound amazing to a boy who has never yet fallen in love. But when times come, it's not the best thing.
Well not every woman that will come close and introduce herself could be just a girlfriend or wife for an instance, as years pass men look for something. We somehow called it standard.
Men’s standards depend on what they looking for, honestly. I might look like I am making toys for women but of course, it comes to the reality that both men and women have their own standards when it comes to relationships.
The caller on the radio program is a boy, he is professional. He fell in love with a girl who was simple and a dishwasher in a restaurant. At first, things go smooth then later the girl confessed that they need to be separated for the boundaries within each other are a great wall. The boy was confused and asked for help from the radio host.
I thought it was just a simple problem, but his story feels like there is something interesting.
It's unlocked. The girl is shy because she was just a simple dishwasher and the boy is professional. There is no problem within the boy but differ explained, it was the social boundaries that are thought.
The host explained why, I quite disagree with his thought but somehow it talks about reality. He gave an example, for example, you are a farmer and the one that you adored and admired is a lawyer or doctor that paid with a high salary grade, what would you feel?.
At first, it happened in fantasy that we watched, why not in real life?.
Digging deeper, I began to understand the flow of thought of the host.
Women who are professional are now beginning to place a standard, they will also look for a man who is also professional or has something of their own. That’s the new normal and that is what they deserved for the record.
They will look for a pair that will provide them with comfort, not that they will be the ones that will stress things out for the family needs.
I am still hesitant to express my thoughts for I think some will be offended but men or women both also should look for realistic standards. Not just on a fairy tale influence.
That’s how education is worth for I think, also base your standard on the status of your life, that's realistic. Fairy tales are very rare, not happening to everyone.
Back to the radio program and story. If I will be that man or the caller, I will keep that girl. She is just shy because of the social status they had nothing more because she thinks that won't fit on her. which means that she is a low key person, she doesn't want to aim for more than she thinks.
Well for me, I want a girl who has seen and experienced being with nothing, I am not a woman who was comfortable ever since she was born. So when I got interested in a woman and found out she was rich, I am the one that still looks back.
My standard is a person who witnessed being nothing because I know the reality of life. Not every day I had something, not daily there is harvest. So practically speaking I want a girl that could understand the feeling of being nothing, it's much easier to prepare for her already within that.
Professionality? I am a man who doesn’t look at that. I am the man and I am also a professional that could do it, but if she was professional or wanted to be one, I won't be a hindrance to her career.
I disagreed with the radio host but somehow I also agreed. We should have really a standard, of course, girls must also have for that’s what you deserved, but the standard is a basis, not the whole ideal approach. Thanks for reading…
Palagi ko naririniv yan na mag aral mabuti kasi pipila mga lalaki sayo. Wag daw ako mag settle sa isang lalaki na walang natapos. Parents ko di ko narinig na ganyan, yung mga mariteses lang. Pero yun nga, sabi ng parengs ko humanap akonng lalaking kaya ako ipag tanggol at rerespituhin ako. Yung di ako sasaktan physically at emotionally. Kahit daw hindi mayaman basta kaya daw magpakain sa isang araw. Kaya dapat din daw ako mag aral para may kaagapay sa buhay yung magiging partner ko.
Para sakin lang ah, mas okay nga yung galing ka sa wala talaga kasi maiintindihan mo yung buhay talaga. Tas mga lalaki ngayon, mas gugustuhin talaga yung babaeng marunong sa bahay lalo kung masipag naman si lalaki. Kasi alam mo bespren, mas maganda yung asawa na hand ons sa gawaing bahay at mga anak kesa sa nagtatrabaho sa labas at ipinagkakatiwala ang anak sa ibang tao. Naisip ko na rin kasi yan, kaya minsan naisip ko wag na lang kaya ako mag trabaho 😅