Be Your Man's Helper

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This post is not pointing a finger at anyone, is just what I think on my own and what I saw on social media lately so nobody should take it personally.

Responsibility is the act of taking full charge of something. Am sure some will even be thinking that well thank God am just a girl automatically I don't have any responsibility to take charge of because my husband or fiance/ boyfriend will be the one to carry it all, but then I ask what about your own family? Are they your man's responsibility as well? And this is what is causing problems in so many marriages and relationships because ladies of nowadays don't want to work all they want is to sit at home enjoy their men hard earn money and then they will still be claiming they want to come first in everything the man does.

Let me burst your bubble, man is not the only one that has a responsibility to carry we all have a responsibility to carry as long as you are alive living whether you are single, engaged, or married you have your responsibility in life as well.

For instance, a single lady that says she doesn't have a responsibility, are you going into a relationship because you want your boyfriend to carry your life responsibility for you? Or let me ask if you are not lucky to have a man in your life won't you sort yourself out? No wonder some ladies now prefer to date or marry Yahoo guys(internet fraudsters) just because they want the guy to always pay their bills and buy them expensive things.

A lady that is engaged this ones are very bold to the extent of telling a man why did you get me engaged when you know you can't carry my responsibility? Well, let me ask you before you got engaged who was carrying the responsibility for you? Or you just manage to get him to engage you so that you can put all the load on his neck? If the guy happens to be your elder brother will you allow such a lady for him? Am sure you won't.

And as for married people these one's are very funny eh you will hear after all you are my husband so automatically my responsibility has become yours as well forgetting that their father is a man and their brothers too is also a man, some of them will always tell their brothers that you don't marry your wife just to finance her family but they want their husband to finance theirs, don't you know that when your husband head is full of responsibility he will begin to misbehave to you in the house but when you are helping him even if it is little it won't choke him, I have seen someone that has an issue in her marriage just because her husband's head is full of responsibility and when she went out to work the issue die down now she doesn't want to stay idle again because she now knew the cause of her marriage problem.

I watched one TV program and the host was talking about the responsibility of a man and a woman as a couple then she said: "you don't go into marriage just to make your man truck that has nothing to do than to carry the load" and I reason that, that if my brother reports his wife of letting him finance her family all in the name of marriage I will be very mad at her because my brother is not a horse or camel that came to life just to carry loads for another person don't get it wrong man will always take responsibility but the wife has to help too to ease him from getting choked though it might just be in a little way.

Likewise, I can't do such for my man, a man can help his wife, fiance/girlfriend to pay bills even he can send money to her parents as well but it is not an obligation or a duty. But some women have made it a duty call for their husbands.

You can ask and then he will give you but don't you make a compulsory habit, see what you can't take don't do it for someone else because we all have a man in our family even if you don't have brothers you will have a father. Men are truly strong and they can carry anything as many as it is but that doesn't make us turn them into a truck and use them as we like.

And as a man don't think your woman is a golddigger because she always asks you for financial help, you are her supporter that's what you should always do because some men too don't like to help their woman which is not right we all should be a helper to each other

Thanks for reading.