My girlfriend now is suffering in depression and anxiety, we're living together for a year and today's article I just want to share how I handle my girlfriend depression and how do I make her feel that I love her. So let's begin.
If you have a family member, friend, or romantic partner with depression, you naturally want to help them. In fact, the best way to help them is to give them your love.
BEING THERE FOR THEM
Accept the impact of their illness as much as you want harm. If your loved one has a serious leg injury, you expect it to take time, patience, and a set of treatments to work towards recovery. You will also accept that their feet may not be the same. Similarly, depression is a serious condition that cannot be "fixed" and can cause permanent change.
Be caring, kind, understanding and genuine with your loved one with depression, as if you were seriously injured. Each of them is needed.
Then do not try to ignore or reduce depression because all this is happening on their head. It is a real disease that needs active treatment and support from loved ones.
Listen to what they have to say. Just listening is often the most important and useful thing you can do for a loved one with depression. When they are eager to talk, say as little as you can and simply lend a caring ear.
Let them know that you are truly eager and willing to listen: "I want to hear what you are feeling and thinking, whether you want to talk now or later."
Offer to listen only when you are truly ready and able to do it. Give them your full attention, and do not act like a burden or do them favor.
Tell them you love them exactly. People with depression may feel that they are in the wrong and that no one can or should worry about them. Tell them directly and often how much you care for them. Show that you love them for what you do, but do not assume that is enough - tell them too.
You can say something like this: "I love you like today, Nics and I love you tomorrow." or "I love you for who you are, and nothing will change."
That means when you say you are there for them. Depression can cause people to feel as if they are or will be abandoned by everyone who took care of them. That is why it is so important for you to stay true to what you said to your loved one. Continue to prove that you will not leave their time in need.
You say "I'm here to listen," then listen. If you say you love them the way they are, do not act as if you could not change for them to change.
Do not say "You can call at any time," for example, unless you actually said it. If you are not ready or get calls during work or in the middle of the night, be clear.
Be honest with them about how you feel. There is no way around it: sometimes you feel confused, hurt, frustrated, or even angry because of their sadness. Do not blame them for your feelings by using "statements". Use first-person statements to express your feelings of support.
For example, avoid saying things like "You gave me so much for what you did." - Instead try something like this: “I was kind of disappointed when you refused to come by my side, but I understand why you are so hard to get out."
Act if you fear for their safety. Ignore or ignore if the person starts talking about the “end of everything” or clues to self-harm or suicide in any other way. Call for help if you are afraid they may take drastic measures.
Sometimes, however, a person is more at risk for suicide if they do not talk about it. If the person seems to retreat further into the world and their life and does not seem calm, they may decide to try suicide. Trust your instincts and take action.
Call the emergency service number where you live.
Invite them to stay active and involved. At the same time keeping people busy with daily activities, try to get them out and active in society. Depression creates a strong desire to leave the world, but maintaining activity and connection is an important component of the treatment process.
Invite them for daily walks or other regular physical activity. Exercise is great for physical and emotional health.
If you used to have dinner with friends on Fridays or attend Sunday evenings on Sunday, invite them to continue the tradition: "I know Shang and Ange love to see you, and I think we enjoy it too."
Do not try to force them to go if they strongly refuse, but keep making offers to come out.
Give your support if they choose to ask for help. For depression treatment to work, the person must choose to seek help. Do not try to force them or give them a journey into guilt. Just keep letting them know that you will fully support them if and when they choose to get treatment
Put it this way, “I think seeing your doctor and discussing treatment options will benefit both of us. I will come for you in any way you need me to take that step.
This is the best thing you can do to love a depressed person- Show your love by listening without judgment and telling and showing them that you care. If they receive treatment, they should invite you to stay active and busy and support them. Be sure to also show love for yourself, however, for your own sake.
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When you love someone with depression it can feel as though you’ve lost them for a while. The person you’ve always known and loved is still there, but they’ve withdrawn into themselves, away from the pain and hopelessness of it all, not away from you. It just feels like the safest place to be, but it doesn’t mean that they wouldn’t have you right there with them if they knew how to do that.