Is there No Way Out?

There comes a time in life when challenges become so overwhelming that one will be forced to ask this vital question of is there no way out of whatever predicament, challenge or setback one has been facing for so long. This question is not borne out of the fact that one does not know that challenges, predicaments or setbacks are part of life rather it is borne out of the fact that a unique or particular predicament, challenge or setback has gone on for too long. What does this mean? This simply means that there is an expected time limit for every challenge one faces or goes through in life and if for any reason such setback, challenge or problem elongates more than usual, the victim will set out to look for solutions even from places that he would not want to visit in his entire life. This has become the story of many people out there who are passing through one form of challenge, setback or problem. Most times, these challenges are self-inflicted or inflicted by others but whatever be the case, no one will feel comfortable to be a particular or unique problem, setback or challenge for such a long time without searching for a solution.

Types of Solution

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I have been able to engage some people in a form of a random sampling of opinion in a bid to study and understand what and how we perceive a solution. I had to carry out this opinion sampling through verbal interaction with random persons from different works of life. CAVEAT: I will love to note that for the sake of privacy, I won’t be using names both for the individuals and locations as well of places where this sampling of opinions was conducted.

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First, I must state categorically that one thing was common in all of the samplings I got and that thing was the zeal to finding a solution that every single person exhibited. Now, so many times we find ourselves locked into one hard corner or the other and within the shortest period we will begin to feel the need to break free from whatever setback, challenge or problem we have fallen into. This goes to substantiate the fact that no one enjoys wallowing in pains either self-inflicted or inflicted by others. I also found out that the gender of a person has a lot to contribute to the challenges they face in life. Before I go into the types of solutions which people sort for in times of difficulty, let me look at gender and its connection to life challenges.

Gender and its connection to life Challenges

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Don’t forget that these assertions were gotten from the random sampling of opinions by different persons whose maximum number was 25. When posed the question of life challenges in general to the entire group, they all had the same answer towards the fact that no one enjoys facing problems, setbacks or even challenges in life. This general opinion could not stand when I posed the question of gender and its connection to life challenges. Some of them especially the female gender believed that the challenges of life get tougher on the female folks while a small number of them said that the male folks face more challenges in life than the female folks. For the male folks in the group, their response was unanimous because they believe that male folks face more challenges in life than female folks. Looking at these opinions, one can easily spot the issue of gender inequality playing an undertone in all their responses.

The Baby’s Understanding

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Because of the major reason for which this research was conducted which was never to prove which gender faces more life challenges than the other, I will not dwell on the responses from the angle of gender rather I will look at it from a general perspective. We all know that challenges in life come with age and maturity. When a child is born, his major challenge is to eat which is why he will carry at every given time once he feels hungry be it in the morning, afternoon or even in the dead hours of the night. As a nursing mother, you will notice that the moment you satisfy the baby’s hunger with breast milk or any other baby’s food, you will notice that the baby will fall into a deep sleep. What this singular act means is that the baby does not care whether the mother has eaten, whether the mother is sick or whether the mother will be able to sleep again after waking her up with his cry. This shows that a baby does not bother himself about any other thing other than his immediate need. As the baby grows in age, he will begin to bother himself about some other things like the wetness of his diapers, the tightness of his clothes, shoes or even cap and this is why you will notice that the baby will always try to pull off his shoes, clothes or cap because he is now aware of the discomfort these things are giving to him.

Challenges in the Eye of the Adults

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For adults, this is completely different because they placed in a situation where they cannot both embrace challenges as part of life but with the understanding that every challenge, setback or problem they face have an expiry date. It in this light that solution-seeking and the types of solution they will seek comes into play. Challenges as we all know are a vital part of life which tells the type of mettle a person is made of. Remember the saying; “tough times don’t last, but tough people do”. This goes a long way to show that even the wealthiest of individuals in the world today are seriously facing different kinds of challenges of which one of which is for them to remain in the corridors of wealth. Even the ones who are described as poor people are also fighting with the challenges of lifting themselves from this poverty in any way they can think of even when the solution is temporary. Having stated these things let us look at the two major types of solution people seek whenever they are facing challenges, setbacks or problems.

Two Major Types of Solution

For a better understanding, I will pose the same question I asked these 25 random persons to you. What type of solution do you seek when facing challenges? It will be very easy to say that your answer will be to choose a permanent over temporary solution but the truth is that most of us forget that there is something called a permanent solution whenever challenges become unending. That is when you will hear people say things like, “I need anyhow solution to this problem”, “I just want to have a little rest in my life”, “I don’t care, even if it’s for just a day”.  Looking at these statements you will understand one thing which is the role pain plays in our choice of solution. The two major solutions are Permanent Solution and Temporary Solution.

These two types of solution are highly influenced by an agent that is known as Pain. I was able to deduce from the response of these random samples that the level at which one's challenges gets affects the type of solution one will go for. This is because once pain sets in one are left with little or no energy or zeal to start weighing any solution that comes his way whether it is a short or long term solution. Some of them in their response said that whatever solution they can get in any challenge they are facing will go a long way to alleviate their sufferings. The truth and the major reason why I decided to carry out this research was that I noticed that a lot of people make the mistake of forgetting that the solution they have gotten is not permanent and instead of seeking an end to their challenges, they will forget until when the same challenge comes back knocking on their door.

Conclusion

I found out one glaring truth about challenges and problems of life and that is; problems, challenges or setbacks can never and will never cease to occur as long as one finds himself alive. Another thing is that challenges make one understand he does not control everything that concerns him in life. Finally, I understood that most times the solution we seek is right there under our nose but because of the pain we are feeling from the challenges, setbacks or problems, our sense of reasoning is completely beclouded and bereaved of positive judgement.

This research was conducted through the use of the sampling method which was done randomly on people within the age range of 21 to 50 years. Thank you for your time.

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