I am so pissed at you right now.😡🤬😠

I might not be able to control the rush of emotions that I have running through my entire body due to the shit… (Sorry for that) I have witnessed from so-called friends. Most times when we see people who decide to stay away or choose to become introverts, we judge them so badly without making an effort to know what their story is. I believe that nobody would genuinely want to become an island or something of that nature but because of circumstances, they are forced into self-isolation mode.

I have noticed that we most times forget what it means to be in a mutual or romantic relationship. It is not because we do not want to know but rather we get too carried away by the trivial things of life that we begin to categorise our friends in the same light as others. If you say that someone is your friend, how exactly do you understand it or what do you truly mean? This is one hell of a question I have asked myself over and over again in other to understand what friendship is truly is.

When you call me your friend, what do you truly mean?

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Whether you like it or not, you must be able to answer this question at some point in your life even if you think it is not important. Everywhere you go, you will hear people talking about their friends and how they love them but the truth is that we have not made any effort to truly understand what these people mean. It is so heartbreaking when you see or hear about friends falling out and before you say jack, they are no more friends they will become cat and dog in the shortest time. This leaves me to ponder, were they truly friends or was it a thing of benefit and not true friendship? We may pretend to be friends as long as we like but the truth is that one day it will all fall apart exposing our real intent.

You can be my friend and yet at every slightest provocation you are already walking out of the friendship. Just as we know, friendship is not built on selfishness but that is what we see in our world today. People and deceive others all in the name of friendship or just because they wish to benefit from the other person who is unsuspecting of their real motive.

What do you mean?

Am I your friend when the going is smooth or throughout the season? How do you sleep at night knowing that the person you call your friend is hurting either because of your stupid attitude or because of your selfishness? Having a pretentious friend is far worse than living in a house with a deadly poisonous snake. If you are aware that a poisonous snake is in your house, you will take every precautionary measure to either prevent the snake from biting you or find the easiest way to kill it. But when you have a pretentious friend in the same house with you, you are as good as dead because you would not know when they will strike you and how it would be. They will laugh with you and yet in their heart, they are ready and loaded with overflowing venom to strike.

If she was your friend

A friend called me today and was telling me how she received the shock of her life from a friend she loved dearly. I was thrown off balance when she told me that her friend could not allow her to stay over at her place just for these remaining days of the week since she parked in a new apartment. She told me that she needed the help because she was yet to fix up the new apartment and that she was running short of cash.

In the whole story, she told me that her friend began to tell her that her foodstuffs were almost finishing including her toiletries and beverages. This response struck her so hard that she could not imagine that her friend would be more concerned about her foodstuffs and other material in this situation. I could not believe it myself not until she sent me the screenshots of their chats and even the voice notes the so-called friend sent to her.

I am a realist and I believe that reason must come into play at all times in whatever we do as humans in this life, otherwise, we would become more like animals (although there are animals that have proven to be friendlier than humans). How can a friend be more bothered about less important things when she knows that a friend is seriously in need of accommodation? After all, if you are truly a friend, both of you can joyfully manage whatever that is left in the house in terms of foodstuffs and other things.

“I have learnt that any friend that cannot be able to share that little he/she has will certainly not be able to share when he/she gets the big one”.

Why do we make friends?

There are over one thousand and one reasons why we go into various kinds of friendship which most times are misused or forgotten. I will try to underline some of the reasons why I think we go into friendships.

·        We go into friendship for companionship.

·        We go into friendship for purpose of sharing knowledge.

·         To some, friendship is a gateway to achieving their life goals this is why you see people of like minds clinging together as friends.

·        Just like the saying; when you want to walk faster, walk alone but if you want to walk farther, walk with others. The others in this context are your group of friends.

·        One important reason why we go into friendship is because of love but it is so hurtful that we have forgotten this vital point.

·        Another point which I believe is one of the reasons you are in that friendship is for you to have someone or others who would lift you when you are down.

There are more but I chose to stop the list here. The only thing you can do for yourself is to always know why you are going into a relationship be it mutual or romantic. I believe that life would be better if we can be able to truly go into any friendships with genuine intentions and not for our selfish gains just as we see in our society today. A friend can easily sell off a friend without any second thought or even remorse. Life is too short for us to make it hard for ourselves by our actions. Be a true friend who will always be there for their friends. After all, we all need each other to survive.

Davinchysax loves you…

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