For the Lady’s; A must-read.

Are you surprised that this post is for the ladies only? If you are a man please I will urge you not to leave the pot unattended because it might be your saviour. One thing we all agree on is the fact that we keep learning every day irrespective of age and educational qualification. Most times we become the architect of our problems in life and once this happens, it takes the grace of God for us to understand what is happening to us because we may be thinking that our problems are caused by someone else.

This is the reason why I felt the need to write about this because it has gradually eaten deep into the fabrics of our society. How did we get to this place? Well, it starts just with one favour to another till it becomes a tradition or norm. What I want to talk about is what has scattered most homes because it is something that develops slowly but steadily. Are you in a relationship and not married yet? If your answer is yes, you must read this post with every form of attention you have especially if you are a lady.

The guys can also read it in other to learn something that can save them from becoming the architects of their problems in future. The normal thing we all know is that a man tries to woo a lady into a relationship and he does this with his entire mind because he already knows that he is not the only person dreaming of getting the girl to fall in love with him.

Why must you as a man put the effort at getting the girl to fall in love with you and the moment you succeed, you begin to act less concerned in the relationship, leaving the girl to do everything in other to make the relationship work. As a man, you are wearing a heavy cap which you must try to carry on even when it seems too heavy for you. For us to understand better the drift of this post, I will like to ask us this question. Whose duty it is to take care of the family?

I am a practising Christian and the Bible said that a man who cannot take care of his family is worst than an infidel. I believe that the Bible made this statement because God understands the need for every man to work hard at all times. Now, I also believe that other religions of the world have this same understanding of what a man should do in the family. I hope you are still with me? There has been a trend that most of us ignore because we feel it's part of life or because we do not believe it has the power of hurting us in future.

What trend am I talking about? As a girl, do you feel very ok taking the bill each time you go out with your boyfriend? If your answer is yes, you have to read this post very carefully. The biggest mistake you can make in life as a woman is always giving free money to a lazy man. Read that again and think about it.

It starts with just a little favour of helping him pay bills and then it progresses to giving him to sort out his problems and this come with a whole lot of excuses from the man. The funniest part is that the lady who is busy giving him money will always have millions of excuses for him in other to justify any reason for giving him money. I am not in any way saying that you should not help your man in a relationship, what I am saying is that if you are helping him financially make sure he is someone who is truly and genuinely working hard to make ends meet.

You cannot make the mistake of taking his bills when you know that he is lazing about doing nothing. Why am I saying this? Please, I will ask the men to pardon me because I wish the best for all of us and I believe it starts with having a healthy relationship that can lead to marriage. Don’t give him every financial assistance he asks of you because the more you do that the more you are creating a lazy partner who may end up in marriage with you.

Mind you, he will not change after marriage because you have already given the understanding that you are capable of taking care of things. It is your duty as a woman to build your man into that hardworking man you will love to marry. You should know that you must learn how to push him into working hard at all times. Don’t forget that you must do this with love in other not to put too much pressure on him which may become too hard for him to cope with.

As a woman, learn how to massage his ego by making him feel loved anytime he spends on you, in that way he will begin to feel like the man he is supposed to be in the relationship. No relationship survives when the woman is the breadwinner of the house. The woman was created to be a helpmate and a companion therefore my ladies please do not allow any man to deceive you into taking the bills and his financial responsibilities.

Such a man is not ready for any form of relationship. He does not need to have the whole world for you to know that he is hard working rather, his everyday hustle will tell you if he is hard-working or not. I hope I have been able to pass a very clear message to all of us. Please, help in sharing this message with all the ladies in your circle.

Davinchysax loves you all.