Salut friends,

How was your day today? Hope it was full of joy and gladness as mine was? Anyways this is the second part of the topic I started earlier which is; OVERCOMING ADDICTIONS: MASTURBATION AND PORNOGRAPHY. You can still read the first part by clicking this link

I stopped at where I enumerated some medical disadvantages of excessive masturbation and pornography. Here is the complete list with some way out of this demonic bondage.

1. Frequent headaches

2. Negative impart on the person's relationship; although this isn't a medical condition per say, indulging so much in this act will tend to cause the person lose interest in his or her partner as he/she would have been adapted and addicted to the touching of his/her self. It even noted in a study carried out by some medical expert that some partners if they want to have intercourse with their partner would have to make sure they put on a porn movie to stimulate them or 'put them in the mood'. So basically, they can't have normal sexual relations with their partners without viewing a porn material. This has led to a lot of breakups and end of many relationships.

3. Detachment from God: of course this isn't a medical condition as well, but by far it is the greatest disadvantage of all, because it cuts you off from God directly as you are a temple of God. Your body houses the very essence of God in you. And the Bible tells us that who ever destroys the temple of God, him will God destroy in eternal damnation 1cor. 16-17! So you see, you are losing both on Earth and in heaven. What a sorry state! Also the word of God says the most terrible sin is the sin of sexual impurity, because you are sinning against your body directly. Every other sin you commit you do it outside your body but the sin of sexual impurity is commit in and to the body. 1 cor 6:18. You see, God frowns a lot at the sin of masturbation even though it is not written word for word in the Bible. If you read Genesis 38:1-10, you will see the mind of God to unnecessary ejaculation which is what masturbation brings 95% of the time with the remaining 5% being the time you only 'stroke' and not ejaculated. All in all, God really frowns at this despicable sin, why should you do it and sin against your creator? 😢

Goodnews, there is a way for you!

Even though it may seem like the chains that have held you down and turned you to a perpetual slave to masturbation and pornography may seem impossible to break, the good news is there is a way out for you! You can actually be free and life a life totally free of this addiction. YES YOU CAN AND YOU WILL, if you diligently, consciously and sincerely take the following steps. Before I enumerate them, I'd like to point out that I have grouped this step into two major parts: the first being the psychological ones and the other being the God's way.

The Psychological ways of gaining your freedom.

Before we dive into this aspect of getting a way, You must under that the steps listed here must done consistently, consciousness and with a mindset of the possibility of living a life truly free of this disease.

1. Realise that you an addict; Many people tend to shy away or deny being an addict even though its crystal clear that they are. This insincerely tends to keep them in that cycle of addictions. You need to come to the realization that you are an addict and that it is high time you broke loose from that parasite.

2. Be determined and sincere to break lose from it: So many people desire to be free of this addiction. They may even read some articles such as this addressing this issue but deep down their heart, they are not yet ready to let go. It is one thing to desire freedom, it another thing to work for it. Be prepare to let go once and for all. Your years or period of slavery under this wicked is over. Take charge! Be determined! Be focused!

3. Lose all such materials in your possession: This is the first action-based step to actualizing your freedom. You must dispose of any pornographic or errotic material in your possession. It may not be a movie for you, maybe it's pictures, a certain channel or post or novel or any other thing, LET IT GO! Delete them all. They don't have any profit except harm, shame and regrets to over you.

4. Clear your mind: Many people stop at destroying the materials but after a period of time, they find themselves in looking for such materials to view again because the stronghold of addiction in not outward but resides in the mind. You need to clear your mind of all the thoughts, images and actions of viewed materials that still resides in your subconsciousness and the desire for it. Take a time out. Engage in a meditation journey.

5. Set a target: one of the hardest thing to break is behaviour. It takes about 28 days to stop an addiction and 100 days to completely break it. Remember, you didn't become addicted in a day. So set a target of a time to want to stop it. Some people can decide to not do it in that time phrase and they would achieve it but the truth is, not everyone can do that. So set a target of say 2 months. Then cut the 2 months in segments. For example, for the first week, to only masturbate 2 twice, then twices in a 2 weeks for the 2nd and 3rd and then for the 4th and 5th week onces, the 6th and 7th week none. The last 8th week will be evaluation and check of your progress. Then take all from the beginning but this time on a stretch say no masturbation or pornography for 3 weeks or 4 weeks or any of your specifications. NOTE; In all this, remain faithful, focused and determined. Do not relap by breaking your target. Every relaps is a failure on your part. The urge will come, very strong, but you can overcome it cos you are better than that! It is a mind Game, so don't allow any thing of such nature in your mind. It all starts from a thought. Kill that thought before it grows.

6. Redirect the energy; Another mistake people do is that they feel they can always try to overcome the emotions and urges but at the end they fall flat. You are dealing with feelings here, and you don't want to take chances with it. Whenever the urge to watch or touch comes, don't just go and sleep. You will only worsen the matter cos all those urges are bottled up inside of you and will continue to grow and grown and grow until it overpowers your will. Instead, redirect the energy. Get involved in something. Turn that urge into useful energy and let it flow out. You can decide to work out (maybe do some few exercises), or wash the dishes or clear the garden, etc. As you do this, make sure your mind is free also. Don't think on it, and KILL any image or thoughts abhoring such action in your mind. Be happy and focus your mind on other matters like trying to solve a hard question with your brain. May God help you.

A big thank you to all you esteemed readers. This is not the end of this topic, more tips will be revealed in my next post. If I should write them all here, we'll be talking about almost 20mins reads and that will be boring. Make sure you stay tuned, your freedom is NOW! 😊❤️❤️❤️