(EN) Reasons not to punish a child with a lot of character.

Children with a lot of character are usually misunderstood, they are usually very intelligent, curious children and they need to learn experientially.

That is why their upbringing has some peculiarities that you must understand if you do not want to experience constant arguments and conflicts.

Because you should try to educate your children with a lot of character using strategies other than punishment.

1. Because they are very intelligent. Punishment is very ineffective, but studies indicate that smarter children learn less from punishment than other children and benefit more from positive strategies such as emotional connection, rules, and reinforcement. That is why many parents think that they are so stubborn, when in reality what happens is that they are not using adequate strategies.

2. Because they learn very quickly from your behavior. Children with a lot of character are characterized by learning quickly. When punished they can quickly learn to punish other children. It is also frequent that their parents have the feeling that their children punish them when they do not do what the child wants. It's really just what you were taught to do.

3. Because they have an iron will, but a tender heart. Punishment, yelling and threats can break the will of a child with character, but as with all children, punishment hurts (especially if it comes from their parents) and will damage their confidence and self-esteem.

There is always another way to achieve collaboration and set limits without generating new negative behaviors or damaging the child's self-esteem, although many parents do not apply these strategies because they are not familiar with them.

Let's learn to educate positive. It can be difficult but not impossible.

Remember that all children have the right to:

• Feel deeply loved and wanted.

• Have a good concept of your dad and mom.

• Feel cared for and understood

• need company to fall asleep

• Make mistakes without being blamed

• cry caudno need it

• appear angry

• grow without threats

• feel important

• Behave like children.