At many points in our life, we stand at a diverging roads where it's all up to us which one we choose. Even in this short span of 21 years of my life, I have been there too and I am surely gonna be there numerous other times in my days to come. I am not talking about simple choices here. Probably as kids, we had choices for the color of lunchbox mom should buy for us, dress we are gonna wear and pretty much every small choice had to face our tantrums first. But as we grow, these choices become complicated, no more a kid's game. These turn out to be life changers, faith makers and they get clearly reflected in a person's portfolio of life. Others judge us on the basis of paths we chose, decisions we made and where they got us.
A simple study on me :
Ever since I got admitted in 8th standard(when I could understand what being competitive is), my dad and mom started giving me examples of different people who are our relatives and have achieved great success in their life and worked hard for it. They would tell me how they were poor but never gave up on their studies, made good out of every opportunity, never took a path of laziness, never committed anything bad and all sorts of standards which I really admired and took inspiration from. Now I am a grown up and also see people the very same way how mom and dad used to tell me back then. Aren't we evaluating the choices of others here? And I am sure, this is the case with most of us. We either mock others for who their are and what they did to get there or either we admire and bow towards the one who have really done wonders and make their choices our ideals.
When the choices become hurtful :
When the love is involved, you surely hurt yourself bad opting even a single wrong option of all available.
When it's about career and you can't find perfect option but choose anything out of confusion, it surely becomes hellish to pursue something which is not your type.
Going against will of family and suffering afterwards is like walking on fire and you don't have enough courage to head back even though they always have their arms open for you.
Decisions in friendship sometimes get complex and there are many scenarios which explain this best. One I would quote here : "changes in friendship when you fall in love and how you handle it" nothing matter more in such times other than the choices you make and your management skills. Another scenario, where you have to stand by your friend's side when no one would and when you only have your bond to trust on.
Small very small things like choice of making a statement at some place, choice of seeing someone, choice of routine etcetera are really big things which can really show bad impacts if you can't control them.
Choice of profession and steps taken in its pursuit at right time are the ones which ensure a future full of your want else you are gonna suffer bad.
There are many other scenarios which aren't needed to be mentioned here but one thing is common, the nature of decisions you make. You can't be correct all the time but many factors contribute in it along with the words yes or no for a particular option.
What are right choices(my perspective)?
All those which are opted after observing and calculating everything carefully are good to go with. If you don't have anything to support why you chose a particular path, you will start questioning yourself when you start dwindling on it. Consider choosing a bad career option over others you could, it sure hurts and if anything, you can question yourself only after you no longer feel spark for it.
Its always better to consider dependencies on your choices. If there are any, you should consider their well being thoroughly and if it has you only in it, research, inquire about and then step on whichever path you decide with full dedication toward it.
You only know better about yourself than anyone and it's always good to choose best for you after some suggestions. Take analogy of choosing a smartphone here. We always first decide a budget and then go for the best one available in the range. It may require some online research, review of users etcetera but when we arrive at a decision after this much of a reasoning, we always end up satisfied and even if it doesn't come up to expectations, we console ourselves with the fact that we did the ground research for it. It is always a better approach then relying on luck and choosing blindly.
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