To make mistakes is part of our imperfections. No one is perfect, accept the fact that we make mistakes everyday and the most important things that you need to have is the ability to recognized your mistakes. As we make mistakes some of it was the reason why we hurt the people around us like for example "your lies." When you apologized some people acknowledged it immediately and some people do not. Some people takes time before they forgive you.
Sorry? A big word that means a lot to someone you hurt but sometimes saying sorry is not enough to fix the broken heart you shattered. You are sincere? Saying sorry means that you accept the fact that you made mistakes but you need to understand that "sorry" is just a start of the repair process to fixed your broken relationships.
When you make mistakes and you admit it, you say sorry how does it feel? Its good right if we admit our mistakes and make an apology it brings us the inner peace that we want and we eventually moved on from that situation. Have you ever heard the quotation "forgive him/her, forget it and move on." When we look on the other side the one who say sorry feels the inner peace and moved on, but the one who is hurt? Its easy to forgive but the remnants of your mistakes will be engraved in heart of the people that you hurt. The disappointments and scars are left. You moved on? But how about me?
Its not easy to admit our mistakes or to make amends, right? If you don't want to lower your pride or if your ego is too high well saying sorry is not an easy task. But when we look on a brighter side its good to admit our mistakes because it symbolizes the courage that we have. Its embarrassing to say sorry, you lowered your pride and ego but when you say sorry and admitting your mistakes you are forgiving yourself and you are avoiding the situation to live in guilt.
When I was in highschool though I am prone to be bullied. If often ask myself why do people pick on me? Is it fun to say hurtful words? Is it fun to make someone aggrieved? I don't know. Now I can still remember those people who make my highschool days difficult. Yeah I already forgive them but it doesn't mean that they are welcome to my life that they can associate or make engagement to me. Yeah I forgive you and forget the past but I decided that you are no longer and will never be part of my life again. Let's moved on and be civil.
In every mistakes that we do we need to learn the lesson it brings to us. We need to reflect and recalibrate ourselves to be better next time. If we have the self awareness we can build a good relationship to other people next time. Be considerate always and think every decisions you make. Think before you speak and act. Its impossible to be perfect that's the fact, we can only be trustworthy in our words and actions.
Accept the fact that saying sorry is not enough always. We need to think the severity of damage that we brought. We need to think the people that we hurt. And to avoid hurting someone we need to think the different decisions that we make and think the possible outcome if we take that kind of actions. Don't speak just because you are carried away by your emotions. If you are angry don't speak anymore, speak when you are calm already. If we hurt someone have the courage to make amends because it will make a great difference.
Be courageous about their decisions, if you say sorry you need to accept and respect their decision. If they forgive you and continue your relationship, accept it and treasure it and do not make the same mistakes again. But if they forgive you and they chose and decide not to associate with you anymore, you don't need to feel aggrieved, respect their decision if that's the way to maintain or preserve your memories accept that.
"Im sorry, apology accepted, but you are not welcome anymore in my life so access denied.
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