How to heal from a Break-up

Break-ups, are just like other emotion-related life issues such as the death of a loved one, a divorce and so on, could be really painful as well as depressing; and if it is not well handled, it might get out of hand and could lead to various health and/or psychological problems.

In this generation where love seems to be in the air and people and most especially youngsters are falling in-and out of love, I must say.

Most often than not, teenagers fall in love just for the fun of it or because of monetary benefits, or as a result of peer pressure from their friends, and most times they do so without actually knowing what they want from the relationship and that is why teenagers often make mistakes which could sometimes be life threatening, for example, having an abortion.

Also, because teenagers are young and often inexperienced, they are quick to fall in love and quick to also fall out of love too, I must say.

Maybe that would account for the so many young, broken hearts we are having now.

Whether one is a teenager or an adult, whether one is young or old, people are different and so therefore people have different ways of dealing issues that are emotion related as well as healing emotionally.

We have seen or heard cases where people slipped into depression or committed suicide because they couldn't properly deal with a break up experience.

So therefore, one rule cannot be applicable to all.

Below are some ways which help you to deal with and heal from a break-up .

ACKNOWLEDGE WHAT HAS HAPPENED:

• There are five stages of grief which includes:

• Denial stage

• Anger stage

• Bargaining stage

• Depression stage

• Acceptance stage

People tend to remain in the denial stage for a long time, not wanting to or not ready to accept the reality of things.

Coming out of the Denial stage and accepting the fact that the relationship has ended Is the first stage towards your healing.

GIVE YOURSELF TIME TO HEAL PROPERLY:

Don't rush yourself into healing fast.Take your time to heal.Heal at your own pace and do not let people rush you into healing too hurriedly and moving on.

Definitely you would move on and bounce back stronger, but just take the healing process easy on yourself.

LET OUT YOUR EMOTIONS:

Bottling up your emotions isn't at all good for your health. Cry if you need to, let that weight off your chest.

If you ever feel like everything's too much for you to handle, talk to someone about it. Express yourself.

DON'T SHAME YOUR EX:

After the relationship has ended, it's normal to feel embittered especially when you had invested a lot into the relationship, but really, burning bridges isn't really necessary.

Break up in a matured and amicable manner.

Don't rubbish your ex's image all other the social media. Do not talk bad about him/her too, most especially if your ex was good to you while you were in the relationship but had to break up because of whatever reason and leaving you feeling embittered.

Belittling your ex isn't really necessary and it is a petty thing to do.

DELETE MEMORIES:

If your relationship ended on a sour note and you don't want to be reminded of it, you could delete everything that reminds you of the relationship.

You could delete his/her pictures, chats on social media, dispose of gifts-everything that reminds you of such relationship and your ex.

PROTECT YOURSELF:

If your ex showed signs of psychosis while in the relationship; or if he/she is life threatening even after the relationship has been nullified,you might want to protect yourself and your loved ones.

Report any case of physical or verbal attack from your ex to yourself or your loved ones.

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF:

Because you're hurting it's easy to want to indulge all your cravings, but is that good for you? Probably not.

Eat right, exercise, keep fit, stay healthy, practice yoga and meditation.

Be introspective and review your life so far. Pray. Whatever your religion is, talk to your Creator, ask him to lead and guide you into making the right decisions.

Get some spa and facials. It's just a break up, not a funeral.

THERAPY AND COUNSELING:

If you feel that the break up is taking it's toll on you emotionally and you feel you cannot bear it alone, that's fine.

We all have problems weighing us down one way or the other and sometimes we need help.

Talking to a therapist is one great way of getting that burden lifted off your chest, as they would help you heal and assist you in making good decisions.

Also, you could listen to music, they have a calming and soothing effect.

If you're a person who loves nature,you could do some gardening work; and if you're an Art person,you could do some art therapy on yourself.

DON'T ZIP UP:

After getting your heart broken, it's easier to want to just shut everyone out and zip yourself up, create a safe haven for yourself and wrap yourself in the cocoon of self indulgence and protection, but really, you need to be more open now.

Don't close up on people-the opposite gender, your family, friends and loved ones. Let them help you heal.

Make new friends and cherish the old ones you've got.

Go out more. Go to the movies, games, karaoke, fun hang-outs, just have fun-you deserve it.

Don't wallow in self pity.

FOCUS ON YOUR WORK:

Bury yourself in work, it would help you forget about your ex faster. Move on with your life. Your world doesn't have to end just because your relationship did.

DON'T RESORT TO TAKING DRUGS:

It is easy to feel vulnerable and want to escape from the situation which taking drugs would provide, albeit for a little while, but then ask yourself, is it worth it? You could become addicted to drugs afterwards, not to mention all the health and mental issues that could generate as a result of taking hard substances.

If you're going through a break-up, give all these a try. Like I said earlier, your world doesn't have to end just because your relationship did.

I hope you found this article helpful.

Cheerios 😊