Rebuilding your self-esteem and self-confidence- a realistic approach that works!

If you've ever had your spirit and your self-esteem crushed or feel like you're just struggling to get by, I have encouragement for you. You have nothing to worry about because there is a way to rebuild your self-esteem. This article will be covering four simple habits that can help you rebuild your self-esteem.

Forgive yourself Forgive yourself for past self-destructive patterns

One of the things that keeps our self-esteem stuck is us living in the past. I’ve made certain mistakes in the past and I stayed stuck because I stayed in the cycle of unforgiveness and self-doubt. I was constantly beating myself up and I had a hard time forgiving myself so that I could move forward.

Unforgiveness whether towards others or yourself builds up a fence and that fence walls you in, it keeps you stuck. So, if this is you, I want you to know you're not alone. Start first by having a conversation with yourself, be a friend of yourself.

Talk back to yourself- hey love it's okay, hey love I forgive you. Learning to talk to yourself is one of the foundational steps of people who are mentally confident. Have a conversation out loud with yourself and you'd be surprised at where it can take you.

Build self-trust

We often struggle with self-esteem because we don't trust ourselves. We have spent so many years probably breaking promises to ourselves. If you had a friend who broke promises to you, would you trust them, would you stay the course, would you believe that they would do what they say they're going to do? Probably not. You probably wouldn't have a lot of confidence in that relationship. Well, that's where you can change your relationship with yourself and therefore change your confidence.

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Self-esteem is the ability to trust yourself to do what you say you're gonna do. One way to do that is by building self-trust and self-respect. By spending time with yourself, by also practicing using little promises. To say I’m gonna follow through, I'm gonna stay the course, I will be consistent.

I would challenge you to start building self-trust by focusing on the smallest of things. For instance, little things such as I'm going to work out every day no matter what. Once you do that for 10 days straight your self-trust will go up a notch.

We're just looking at turning things up a little bit at a time. Maybe your self-trust is in the promise that you want to start jogging. You know that jogging is breathing for your brain and elevates your confidence, and it gives you clarity of thinking. Well, take the 10 minutes every day to do that and when you show up for yourself even when you don't feel like it, self-trust is built, and self-esteem grows.

Detach from the outcome and enjoy the process

One of the things that wrecks people's self-esteem, confidence is an over-attachment to the outcome and when we get to that place, we get stuck in perfectionism or procrastination, and it becomes very hard to take action, and if you are finding yourself stuck and able to take action you're then self-sabotaging by not even starting and because you don't even start you aren't able to get any results and if you don't get results or you don't feel like you're moving forward in your growth, in life or maybe personally or professionally, your confidence and self-esteem will begin to go down, you’d feel stuck.

Feeling stuck is a sure-fire way to plummet your self-esteem. To overcome this, know that doing something is better than nothing. Your job isn't to attach to what you can't control which is an outcome but rather to attach yourself to what you can. Just keep telling yourself I'm going to do my best and go all in and if you do a little bit every day and stay in the present then you are moving forward in other words this is a growth mindset.

Get around positive people

People are contagious so if you want to be catching the good things you must make sure you put yourself around positive people, around people who build others up or people who are chasing excellence and wanting to reach the next level in their life. You become like the people who you spend the most time with.

Here's the thing, don't wait for those people to find you. You must go find the right people and engage in other communities to get to know people. Put yourself out there.

Sometimes the little things are the hard things so give yourself a pat on the back, give yourself credit and go put yourself around the right people. Those right people are contagious. It will build your self-esteem. You will start giving people more confidence. Those compliments will boomerang back to you, and you will become somebody who feels sure of themselves.

Conclusion

I want you to know that your self-doubt is never going to go away. It's always there no matter how confident you become. That voice will always be there. What the most confident people do is they learn how to turn it down

The way we control our thoughts is where confidence comes in. We don't need things to be perfect, we don't need you to be totally confident to have the self-esteem that you crave and deserve.

We get to rebuild our self-esteem by turning up the voice that we know that matters, which is God's voice about us and the truth about us, and turning down the old things that people said to us that are holding us back or the things we said about ourselves.