I asked her out, guess her reply...

There was this girl I knew from my childhood days. We grew up in the same neighborhood, went to the same high school, even attended the same church. I had been crushing on her for years.

I finally worked up the nerve to invite her out to have lunch with me.

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A night before that day, My heart is racing, I can’t eat, sleep or breathe. My mind has a million thoughts but I now know what it feels like to be in love. But I grew the courage the following day.

So we went to a food canteen, We talked and laughed, and a few hours later, I decided to pour out my mind to her.

I still couldn't let the cat out of the bag.

Stammering "I... i...I... (instead of saying I love you, and I want you to be my girlfriend, I said) I want us to be together" I said those words with fear of getting rejected.

She smiled and said, we are together already. "Deep down in me, I know she understood what I meant, but she was just pulling my legs"

At the end of lunch, I asked her if she wanted to hang out some other time. She said yes!

I walked out of the canteen feeling like a champ. A few minutes later, I saw her walking toward me. She looked confused. I ran over and said, “Wait! I'm not just being friendly. I'm asking you out.”

She laughed and said, “I knew that.”

I asked her out twice in the food canteen, but neither time did I make it explicitly clear my intentions or give her an opportunity to disagree.

So this time around, I told her directly without fear "I love you, and I want you to be my girl".

She smiled and said "how is this so hard to say? I knew this was where you were driving to. I've heard you, I'll get back to you.

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I hugged her as we both left for our various houses. That night she texted me on WhatsApp, in her message was the reply to my proposal. Guess what she said, "Yes! I am ready to be your girlfriend"

I could say that night was the happiest day of my life.

I am not sure if things would have gone differently if I didn’t ask her out, but I know that now that I tried it was the right thing to do and the fact that she accepted makes me happy.

However, until you try you will never know if you can succeed or not and failure is a reason to start over again

I've learned it's important to be direct. When you ask someone out, you should follow these three simple steps:

1. Be clear in the invitation what you’re asking for — you may want to say something like, “I’d love to hang out with you this weekend if you’re free.”

2. Make sure the person has an easy way to respond — there’s no point in asking someone out if they can’t say yes or no!

No matter how great your intentions are or how much responsibility you have for initiating the date, your date will ultimately be responsible for saying yes or no.

4. Be polite — at the end of the day, no one wants to feel like they’re being taken advantage of.

3. Only ask someone out if they seem open to it — watch body language, facial expression, and listen to the tone of their response. If anything makes you hesitate, let the other person know you’d still like to hang out, but not right now…

I was nervous when I asked her out. Talking to girls is hard. It's even harder when they say no. But asking them out isn't something that always has to be hard. You can do it, too! Your crush will be impressed if you ask them out, and you'll see that there's no reason to behave shy around them

To be successful means to follow your dream no matter what anyone says. Until you try you will never know if you can succeed or not and failure is a reason to start over again.

Fear and pain won’t stop me from trying again, there will be another time.

So, if you have a crush, go and ask him/her out today.

Closing question

• How did you ask your girl out?

• Is it right/wrong for a girl to ask a boy out?

Thank you for reading

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