Have you experienced being hurt so much? Has there been a situation wherein you found difficult to reconcile with someone? How did you control your emotions if somebody tries to damage your dignity? What will you do if someone repeatedly ruins your life and even destroy your reputation and integrity to other people?

Few months before our wedding, we prepared all documents to be submitted to the municipal's registrar and to the church as early as possible. We went to Philippines Statistics Authority or PSA at Tacloban City to get the Certificate of No Marriage. We've gone to Baybay Parish for the confirmation rites of my ex-girlfriend. We together prepared all these things for our wedding. We've also attended many seminars like Pre-cana seminar and family orientation that includes natural birth control. It seemed like everything was okay and fine.

What we were waiting for was to be called during the mass three successive sundays. We also waited for the interview of our parish priest. Not only two times we went to the convent for an interview but we failed because of some reasons. The day was getting closer to our wedding date. I was little bit nervous at that time and got mad because every time I attended the mass, not our names were called but the other couple who filed the schedule before us. It came in my mind and I could feel that our parish priest don't want us to find or get other priest who will preside the weeding. I was disappointed at that time why it happened to me and I was serving in the church for how many years. I was humbly waiting to be called. In God's Grace, two Sundays before our wedding, finally our names were called. But until now, many questions left in my mind that need to be clarified. I don't want to get anger with him for I have respect to all the priests.

Anger is a normal feeling or emotion that could be felt with anybody. However, we must know how to hold our temper or control our emotion before it controls us. It ruins our personality if we will be eaten by anger or hatred.

What the bible says about anger? Is it a sin or not?

1. But You, o Lord, are a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness (Psalm 86:15)

Even God himself who is the source of mercy and grace, He is slow to anger. How much more us. We ask God that He will give us more patience in dealing trouble and handling conflict.

2. Who is slow to anger has great understanding but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly (Proverbs 14:29)

If we received gossip, don't be bothered. (Ang taong naniniwala sa mga sabi sabi ay walang bait sa sarili). Sometimes, we will be destructed by the people around us. But we should also see the other side of a coin. I mean, let's make things clear by having opened heart. We don't easily react to avoid harsh words against them.

3. A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger (Proverbs 15:1)

The way we respond to other people can affect their emotions. If we react things softly then we will achieve peace in our hearts. On the other hand, if we respond it harshly then it seems like we are giving war to them. So, let's be aware of people who have many grudges in life. Avoid to talk with them or you can help them in other way.

4. Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger (Ephesians 4:26)

This verse reminds us that we are not commiting sin if we get angry. If we cannot control our temper and we express our emotions through harsh or bad words that somehow hurt them, that's the time we committed sin against us.

Like what Jesus did, He was get angry to many people for what the priests and businessmen did. The temple of God became the market of thieves. That's the reason why JesusChrist get angry but the way He disposed His temper, He never mistaken.

5. There is no peace, says my God, for the wicked (Isaiah 57:21)

God is the source of peace. All goodness belong to Him. On the other hand, evil is the source of conflicts and troubles. All bad things owned by Satan.

Wicked people always think for chaotic place. Psychologically, they want always to get involve into mental struggle.

Whereas, good people are always having or showing kindness even to bad people. They love peace and are loving and forgiving people.

Let there be peace in our hearts. Let's forgive one another.

Closing Thoughts

People get into trouble because he felt upset caused by someone. Because of trouble, someone could feel a strong feeling of hatred. Because of anger, he has excessive dislike to somebody. Because of hatred, somebody will revenge to reduce his pains and suffering.

To avoid these things, plant love in our hearts; invest peace in our minds; and be faithful in our actions.

Thank you for your time.