Well, this is not a step by step procedure on how you can get over your heartbreak because fixing yourselves is a trial and error process with no concrete steps to follow.
You may be interested in this because you’re going through heartbreak right now. And some of you may not be experiencing a broken heart but interested in reading this to prepare yourselves in your future heartbreak.
But, you can never be ready for a broken heart. The pain will still feel new and difficult no matter how much you prepared yourself. Even those people who think they are prepared gets surprised of how painful it will be because the pain is a strange feeling they could not have imagined.
This is only a little advice to guide you, maybe, or help you face your heartbreaks in a better way.
We have different hearts and so it breaks in different ways too. Rejection, farewells and breakups hurt us so bad that we feel a pain in our chests. What makes them more painful is that the person who did those things to us is the person we trusted and loved so much. They have a special place in our hearts and they chose to wreck it, turning our whole hearts into broken shards of glass.
Yet, heartbreaks are not our end nor a beginning. It is a transition into becoming a better individual. So don’t worry too much, it is not the dead end of a tunnel where you can no longer continue. It is just a long dark tunnel and you will surely reach a light outside. It is neither a first page of a new book so we do not have to feel the anxiety and worry of starting over again. It is just another page of your old book. Heartbreaks are continuation and transition to move on.
To fix a broken heart, we must move on and heal throughout the whole process.
Easy to say only, though. But the whole process is tough. You go through a confusing time of your life. You may feel lost but do not worry too much. Heartbreaks are not easy to fix, but not impossible. To fix it, you must face it. Do not be afraid of what you are experiencing.
Feel your emotions. Let yourself feel the pain of loving and failing. You can act tough and strong but you’re only human. You do not have to suppress yourself from those feelings. The more you try to suppress, the harder it will take you to move on. You cannot a fix a broken heart by trying to hide it.
Open your heart. Your heart may be broken into pieces but it is not something to be ashamed of. Express your pain into words, art and colors. Bottling them up inside will only destroy you. Free your heart from the pain. Write poems of your heartbreak. Paint your pain. Tell your friends how you feel no matter how petty they are. Sometimes, a listening friend is enough to lighten up the burden.
Take your time. Moving on is a long process. It will take a longer time than you think. Be patient of your own self. One day it will feel like all your hurt is gone but the next day you wake up, it will feel so painful again. Yet, do not lose hope. Healing is not a constant upward process. It is messy but that’s okay. Do not be too harsh on yourself and rush.
Love yourself. Cliché, isn’t it? But it is cliché because we all need it. We always need to love ourselves but we have to love ourselves more in hard times. It is not a time to neglect ourselves and focus only on the pain. Yes, you do need to feel those emotions even though they will hurt you so much but you have to care for yourself still. The greater the pain, the greater your love for yourself should be.
Take a breather. Do the things you love. Read those books you planned to. Watch the movies you’ve always wanted. But, loving yourself does not just mean spoiling yourself. It also means pushing yourself to wake up in the morning even though your broken heart is still hurting. It also means trying to sleep no matter how lonely the night is. It also means having those uncomfortable conversations with yourself and your friends of the truth of your heartbreak. It means being there for yourself all throughout the process. It means being kind to yourself while facing your problems. It means forgiving yourself of letting yourself go through that pain. It also means teaching yourself on where you went wrong and what to improve.
It will take a lot. The whole process of healing from your broken heart will take a huge part of yourself. But what is important is your willingness to move on and accept what has happened. What matters is the fact that you really want to fix your broken heart.
Remember after the tiring, difficult process, you will be a happier person who knows how your worth and what you deserve.
It is really difficult to heal a broken heart but time heals it. 😊