You are allowed.

You are allowed to cry when things get tough and heavy.

It's okay to do it.

Nobody's born strong all the time. We will always be in a situation where we seem powerless and naive about everything, and that's normal. That happens to everybody. That's a sign of being human.

Being in pain and feeling every bit of dust is being human. If you cannot feel an ounce of pain, then it could be that you're not already in this world.

Even the stone-hearted ones can feel how deadly a scene was; they just refuse to acknowledge the feeling because it was never good in the first place. 

When you're in pain, everything you see is ugly. Is hurtful. Especially when you are sentimental about something.

Nothing's good when you feel bad. Everything feels bad all of a sudden because your vision has been covered with dark clouds waiting to pour their load.

And just like dark clouds that rain, you are allowed to pour out your emotions too. If everything is too heavy for you to carry, you're allowed to let go of it. And you owe no one an explanation for your crying.

All people cry, they just don't do it most of the time because the world sees it as a sign of weakness. 

Crying, especially for men, has never been normalized as a representation of grieving, of being brave enough to let go or being human.

For the most part, crying has been seen as a sign of weakness, as if being affected by all the negativities is a sign of weakness. It is not. It just means you're not numb enough to not feel what's been going on around you. 

You are allowed

You are allowed to say No.

It's hard to say no, especially when the person you're talking to has done some good things for your sake, or they're good at using the appeal to emotion tactic in argument.

It's hard to say no when everybody is saying yes and you're the only one about to decline, but hey, it's okay if you don't want to do anything.

If you don't want to attend an activity you're not comfortable with. It's okay to say no to someone who wants you to join a hangout with a group of friends. It's okay to say "no" if it really means "no" to you. 

You were not born to say yes all the time.

You are born with flaws, imperfections, weaknesses, and things that you don't find comfortable. And you don't need to push yourself to be okay with the things you are not okay with.

Consent is non-negotiable. If someone says "No," it only means "Stop." You're not allowed to go into that place anymore.

Negotiation is done over a cup of tea or breakfast when you're talking about business and expansion, but when it concerns your personal peace, learn to decline.

Between you and other people, it is you who knows yourself better. Why should they have a better understanding of your actions?

You know yourself. And you know when things are already hurting you or making you happy. The choice is always up to you, and you have to acknowledge that right.

That freewill in which only you have a say in how your life should be lived. It is for you to decide. Not other people. Even if the whole world encourages you to do such a thing, if you don't want it, it is still up to you to decide.

They can't argue with you if you've already established your position.

So guard yourself and protect it at all cost, because when everything else is placed in a not-good situation, rarely can you find a person who's going to save you first instead of themselves.

Afterall, they cannot save you if they can't even do it to themselves in the first place. 

This is Thain, and always remember that you are loved. And your emotions are valid.