Has This Happened To You?

My sister has been dating a guy for a few years. They are so close and don't hide anything from each other. At times, I envy them because they love themselves too much😅. I love their love life. Also, they can't do without talking to each other during the day. They don't hide anything from each other too.

As Africans, when you get to a particular stage in life, your parents will ask about the person you're in a relationship with. This question hits the female gender mostly because a woman is expected to get married in her 20s. I think we do this because we want the female child to marry early and also give birth early but it's changing gradually. Things are changing in the modern world and it's very cool.

Back then, it was hard to see a lady who got married in her thirties. There are people like that but they were hard to get because our culture and traditions were highly put into practice during that time. Honestly, I so much love it. I'm also the kind of lady who wishes to marry in my middle 20s. Also, if I don't get a husband during that period, I wouldn't rush. Marriage is forever so I'll take my time.

It's nice to share your relationship experience with your parents. They guide you and teach you what to do in such situations. And that's why you tend to see a lot of African parents interfering in their child's relationships. It's not nice to interfere rudely. I think most of our parents don't know how to talk politely.

My mom did something very painful today. My sister's boyfriend called her to say hi and it didn't end well. My mom had to start telling him all that he did wrong to my sister. It's not nice.

I didn't say that age shouldn't talk about it but it should be in a polite manner. I know my mom and I know how she talks and I'm imagining what she must have said to that guy. He got angry and called my sis.

He asked why she was always telling my mom what happens between them. He felt insecure and I know if such happens to my sister, I won't like it. Imagine that my sister calls his mom and she was being harsh, I won't like it too. I may dislike the woman.

Only God knows what could have been running in his mind after then. This must have happened to a lot of married Africans.

Has it happened to you?