Renting an apartment because of female companionship

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H Yesterday, I received an August call from a childhood friend. We haven't spoke or seen each other since the lockdown of 2020 so we had quite alot to discuss about. He had already completed his college education last year and was now chilling at home.

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I asked him about his plans for the future and I wasn't too surprised when he said that he doesn't have any.

Oh! ....He did mentioned that the first thing on his bucketlist was to move out of his parents house. He had just recently gotten a commission of about $400 from the sale of a property where he played the role of a facilitator between the seller and a buyer. He was getting ready to rent an apartment with the said sum.

I asked him if his parents had been mounting pressure on him recently and he said no. He said something about "most of my friends are already living on their own". He also felt that the ladiess suddenly become disinterested in him when they find out that he still lives under his parents.

Well, if you ask me, I would say that there's something more attractive about a young chap or lady who lives independently in a decent apartment with an appreciable monthly flow of income. It makes a partner or prospective partner feel more secure, proud, submissive and more confident in them .

Nevertheless, from our conversation, the young man didn't sound like an ambitious fellow who craves his own privacy so as to challenge himself to be more productive by focusing more on his goals and avoiding distractions. He was merely under the influence of peer pressure.

I would have advised him to be more careful cause he already had a comfortable room for himself In his father's house. He was also not burdened with the responsibilities of household chores since he had younger siblings that takes care of that. From what i gathered, his parents are very supportive and his father was not the tough type. In fact, he was actively looking out for a job for his son at the moment.

It could have been better if he ploughs the $400 dollars in a profitable business while still under his father. I suggested investing in phone accessories. It could be a small business, but little things would grow big tomorrow. Als due to the epileptic power supply in the country, he could make more money by opening a small shop and offering to charge phones for the people on his street. As the business strives,he would be able to earn more income and save up more for the future. Even while still living at his porent's house, he would be spending more time at his shop. No need to mention that his Dad would be proud of him and would eager to go out of his way to give him more support.

But the young man merely laughed, he told me that such a business was not for him. He just felt that he needed more space and time of his own. It was not as if he had plans of getting married soon, so I wondered why the hurry?

By the way, he was around 26 years of age, so it wouldn't also be a bad idea if he secures an apartment of his own since we all will definitely leave our parents house one day, wether male or female.

I also think it's preferable if a man or a woman strives to live independently at a earlier age as this would motivate him or her to make bolder decisions and take bigger steps in life provided they lived responsibly.

Leaving all the comforts and privileges your parents house provides to start feeding yourself , paying for your own electricity and other services that never stops piling up without any reasonable backup plan or vision for the future is not very wise. Especially when you are aware that the economy of the country is very harsh and the sole purpose of your moving out is for dating or seeking the validation of the other gender.

Make I no lie, things cost ooo!

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This just goes to show you the mentality of a lot of young men in this crazy country. I haven't actually come across someone that just wants to rent an apartment and stay independent because of peer pressure, the notorious set that do something like that are yahoo boys but they do that because they want a place they can do their deeds without distractions, if na to carry woman then they will lodge in a hotel.

Yes, it's a great idea to leave your parents house and learn to stand on your own, it will help you to focus on how to love outside your comfort zone, but that your friend is doing it for the wrong reasons and I hope he doesn't end up regretting it. He go learn later sha

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2 years ago

Of course he will definitely learn. Either the easy way or the hard way 😄

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2 years ago

Leaving alone is a challenge to everyone and a stepping stone to being a more responsible, disciplined, and independent person in the future.

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2 years ago

That's true ma'am. So long one remains focused, there are alot to be achieved

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2 years ago

This is one of our biggest motivations sha. I know many guys who have had to move out of their parents house because they just needed privacy to fulfill their emotional desires. The thing is most times, you see them at their parents' house looking for which food to carry.

That's the Nigerian reality

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2 years ago

You can't blame them though... I think it's still part of growth

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2 years ago

Based on the financial crisis aross the globe, thank God for Indian culture, we never have to move out of our houses and actually live with parents until either of us live.. very economical.. but it also comes with it's own disadvantages

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2 years ago

I have heard this too. Believe me this is very sane. But in my region, some fathers would be comparing his son with other young men of his age who had done we'll for themselves. Hence, driving a poor guy into depression

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2 years ago

Yes same happens here in India too.. comparision is kid's biggest enemy here too..

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2 years ago

You had a good advices with the man, maybe as a male, he really wants to be an independent from his parents so that he has something to be proud of with his future girlfriend.

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2 years ago

That's a very good point, ma'am. I think Iunders too

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2 years ago

You said it very well, my dear Bilqees, as you mentioned, everything has a cost. And it's really hard to leave our parents' home and try to live independently. If we can overcome its difficulties, it will help us to learn how become independent, and gain a lot of experience.

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2 years ago

That's true ma'am. We also tend to make mistakes and learn from our failures. It's part of growth

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2 years ago

Things are really hard outside for anyone that's not buoyant to move out to Start living alone(if he's not going back home to collecting food to cook in his house🤪).

Currently anytime I visit villa, my room always welcomes me with open hand. You know that kinda feeling🥳

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2 years ago

Of coz I know 😁

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2 years ago

Maybe he wants to be independent astje main reason of moving out

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2 years ago

Oh never mind him... Just youthful exuberance 😆

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