Some life defining mistakes not to be repeated

Regret and guilt are the words that are used most during therapy. We spend a lot of time thinking about things we did or did not do and things we had no control of. No one goes through the process of life without going through these feelings at some point of time. And it is perfectly normal. Anyone who shays is lying, at some point of time we have hurt someone’s feelings, made a bad choice or felt like if we could just go back in time to undo something.

But there are some mistakes which have a bigger effect in our lives and we should try not to repeat them again. So here are those ones:-

Not helping the other person.

It is good if you have not hurt anyone or bullied anyone or taken advantage of any one. But how many times have how helped others in those situations when you witnessed one. Have you done that? At any point of time we always find someone in our family or friends circle who are feeling hurt or taken advantage of but we are more sensitive to things when it happens to us than when it happens to others. When we had the opportunity we let it pass because we may be shy or unprepared or afraid. Once it can be forgiven but if it is repeated then it is not.

Neglecting your health

In this busy fast paced life we are more likely to neglect our physical and emotional health. The reasons can be lack of time, work pressure, laziness and being afraid to acknowledge our weakness. As health is not directed connected to earning money so we push it to the back burner until someday we get a knock on our door from some disease. If you have committed this mistake or you are committing it now then please stop and give due regard to your health for the rest of the life.

Trying to fix what is broken

This is the difficult one as we sometimes don’t see or accept that it is broken and we can be in a denial mode for a long time. Relationships are made on quick sand so it both are not supporting beach other then both are sure to go down. So watch keenly for signs of broken relationship and after all your effort if it is not working then move on. Don’t unnecessarily keep wearing off you emotional energy on such things.

Expecting others behave and think like you.

Make no assumptions that others will think or behave as you want. Everyone is entitled to their way of thinking and behaving. It can be parallel to your way or tangent to it. So it is your mistake not theirs. When people are particularly in position of power this expectation creeps in. Then it becomes difficult to accept difference of opinion. Don’t try to push your agenda – listen and understand instead. The world has enough room to adjust to lot of different perspective.

Betraying someone you care and who cares about you

This is of the worst kind and even one is too many. Its scar goes deep and long. You will be lucky if the other person forgives you and there is no fine crack in the relationship. This betrayal can be a small one from your side but you will not be able to judge its effect on the other side. Please don’t do it and don’t do it again.

Don’t waste

Your time, money, energy, opportunities are scarce commodities and are not to be wasted. It’s easy to sit on the couch and watch the next episode of your favorite serial than going for a jog or attending to an important call. Prioritize your essential activities and passive activities and don’t interchange them to suit your convenience. The cool things which you want to do in your life will then surely show up in your regret list in the future.

Neglecting people you care

Communication is the backbone of a successful relationship. Also spend time with people who you care and not with the wrong kind. If you ask older people they will say that if only they had spent more time with people he cared about. It is true that some meaningful relationships will change with time in our lives and we have to let them go. Some will go the long distance along with you and you have to give those relations their due.